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will you do the impossible?

If there’s a scary word, it should be impossible.

Impossible means that it cannot be achieved, that this world doesn’t allow that such thing to happen freely.
We are bound to rules.

It was a while that I read nevblog on how to make 1 Million dollars in 1 month.
It was fascinating.

At first I thought “How could be possible to do, from zero, 1 million dollars in a month?”
The comments of the post are really thoughtful and interesting, full of ideas. They show what can be done.

What will you do if your child has been kidnapped and the sum you have to give amounts to 1 Million?
That’s the question.
And the second question is: Will you achieve the impossible?

In your day-to-day life this thought might not even cross your mind, but given the extreme situation of the example, you might react in 2 ways

  • get crazy in a second, thinking “there’s no way”
  • asking “how can I make that dollars?”

If you fall into the second group of people, then something interesting happens.
You start thinking about how to do it, your mind will burn at the end, but you might also do what you thought was impossible.

There are people who make much more than 1 million in less time, so that isn’t impossible at all.
What feels impossible is that you cannot do it.
And sure it’s  difficult, but definitely not impossible.

choose the words, change them

Words have value, but what happens if you keep repeating the same words over and over again?

The value of the words decrease, their importance once high goes lower.

It’s as if words have a source of energy and power, but this power is finite, and it gets consumed every time you repeat them.

If you want to leave the value of your words intact use them once, use them wisely.

train to fail

I was walking just right outside the beautiful Milan railway station where, at this hour of the day, a cold sunset was about to lie down in the city horizon.

At 5pm many young guys group together outside the station in the main “park” (it has no greens, hence the enclosure”) to train with a skateboard.

They are young and most of them are newbies in the field.

I kept watching them, day after day, until today I suddenly realized how stubborn, difficult, and exceptional training they did every single day.

When training to jump with a skateboard you fail, often, fast.

Unless you are gifted chances are the skateboard won’t rotate properly or you will fall down hitting the ground.

And they do. They crush on the ground, they fail to put the weight correctly causing the skateboard to not rotate properly.

But in an amusing way they continue training like it never happened.

The thing is… There are no intermediate steps, you fail or you succeed. And after this many failures they still continue to try no matter what.

I can relate to this. There are many times when you try try try and you fail the same way, but you have to continue and the reason is because you don’t know that you are progressing (and you are).

The only thing you can do is keep failing until you get to learn the right amount of weight you must out onto the skateboard.

Fail until every single action align in a perfectly orchestrated movement, and for the first time you succeed.

After that first success you will fail many times until those “configurations” are a mechanical part of you. You will continue until you can discern the reason of failure in a perfect way (“I putted less weight during the rotation”) and master the technique.

It’s easy to give up, but many times it’s only because we don’t see the progress.

give the same opportunities

Prejudice is a word that haunt us.

Prejudice means we think before reading people actions.

A prejudice is born when some actions are repeated, so you expect a person to behave that way, but a prejudice is also a virus.
A virus that will infect all the nearest thoughts.

In fact, prejudice spreads itself, and once it starts spreading is everywhere.

For example, you might think that a friend named Tod justify himself too much, so every time Tod speaks you think “not another justification, please”.

That’s ok, it’s prejudice.
Let Sarah, Tod’s friend, enter the room, and justify herself.

Would you think the same way?

Well… if you were with Tod probably, but in other situations maybe the thought wouldn’t cross your mind.
First problem: Prejudice stays in your mind and may affect your opinion of people who were not the target of the prejudice itself.

Now let’s consider the situation when Tod just makes a mistake, and he’s explaining.
Just explaining, or maybe sharing something with you.
We are outside the justification issue Tod has, but still our mind might be tricked in thinking “oh no, not again”.

This is not prejudice alone, some other triggers are pulled, yet the main virus was prejudice itself.

It’s not easy to judge ourself to discover how infected we are by “side-thoughts”, thoughts that weren’t in our mind but were implanted by other correlations, like prejudice itself.

Personally I found a good starting point is to take some time and think “Am I giving the same opportunities to everyone?”

I’ve been there

There comes a time where you feel like you already experienced someone’s else problems or life.

When they come at you with their ideas, expectations, whatever, your reply implies that you absolutely lived in their shoes, you know what they’re doing.

As a grown person, you might also say “right now you might think this, but you’ll change over time”.
It might be true, this might actually happen, but is this behaviour correct?

Should be that much arrogant to persuade another person that there’s no other way? That we are inside a tunnel no one can change?

Young people have the vision of change, the idea that the world can be changed that they can change it, while grown ups usually say try it and fail, I’ve been there

Many of us, moved by stubbornness, have tried and failed, but the idea is still there in every young man and woman, yet we always try to dissuade them from pursuing such enormous goal.

I still don’t think it’s right to dissuade people of this.
We are not talking of trying to do something illegal, we are talking about improving the world, about becoming better people.

Why in the world would you ever want someone to run away from a goal like this?
Maybe we don’t want them to succeed.

Maybe we are just scared as hell that if they succeed, we were wrong all the time, that we failed, that after all it was only us fooled by the system.

Even if they won’t succeed it’s worth if we let other people believe they can.
We should not teach the calm life that you can control while following a scheme, we should engage people into pursuing their creativity at full speed and scale, with empathy and not arrogance, with knowledge and not ignorance.

 

how can we interpret information?

From the Facebook news feed, to the Newspapers, is there a way we can interpret information?

The scientific thought is not always present, and we can’t ask for that, so in case a news arise, what are you gonna do with it?

Are you gonna share it just reading the title?

Are you gonna read some parts alone?

Will you spend your time reading through the article and then search for deeper evidences?

Internet always empower us with choice, but in the end we lack time, so we have to make another choice, is this information something we want and care about?

If yes, then you got to decide how to handle it, if it’s worth sharing.
Sharing based on titles can’t make us better people because in that way we are just helping mass media (not the one you think) manipulate us.
We just go with the flow without understanding the reason, we don’t build a theory, a way of thinking, a point of view.

To create a point of view you must dedicate time and effort, dig deeper, learn more.

That way only you can be sure of what you are sharing.

I got angry again

No matter the day, the sun, or the sky, there will always be a good reason to angry.

Usually it’s about saddle information when we communicate.
Today I was angry because a developer from another company was being mad at me and was implying that it was our fault.

Well, truth is… he wasn’t implying that thing at all, and even if he did, he didn’t write it down.
The implying part was all made up by my mind.

It was my mind that, when I read the email, thought about the hidden pieces of information, he surely didn’t.

Is there an escape from this? It’s not easy, and it won’t be any better in the future but I think the main thing we can do is separate information and judgement.

We should start thinking to why a person is upset with us, we should think about the fact that it’s not about ourself, it’s about the things we do, and the things we do are not our hidden soul, they’re just our actions.

We can fail, we can threat people in the wrong way.
The most important thing is to just care, to threat people in a good way, love them, help them.

Getting angry is, as always, a waste of time.

what if I’m going to fail?

“What if I’m going to fail?”
that is a thought that more often than not cross my mind.

It’s the fear of failure, the fear of not being good enough.

The more I thnk about it, the more I realize there’s not a way to fight this fear, it’s part of who we are.
Having this fear is what helps us questioning to learn, to move forward.

Would it be better if we didn’t fear a thing?
I don’t think so, think about not fearing death, you might jump off a train and just die.
But if you ask yourself “Is the right thing to do? What If I’m gonna die?” maybe you will face the consequences, and think of how to survive.
Maybe you’ll still jump off the train, but you will be prepared to land, or to cling onto something so you won’t die.
And maybe it will work.

Having fear is a litmus test for what you do in life.