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Month: December 2015

today is when you think about the past and the future

It’s strange, but we all think about past and future the last/first day of the year.

We probably see this as a closing for our past and an opening for our future, yet we often fail to change something.
Many, many things stay the same.

It’s a common thing, and I believe we should focus on the present instead. Just on today.
It’s ok to plan for the future so we can be organized, but we have to live the present fully to deeply understand what’s coming after.

Today, as one of my last “2015” actions, I donated blood to help hostpitals.
It was great, although I’m a small guy so it impacts a lot in the rest of my day, but still I think it’s a great and easy way to help people.

 

be honest in how you live and what you do

Yesterday I did something wrong, hurting people I love.

I did that, without knowing the outcome of my actions, and without any evil intent.
So, even though I was “innocent” I apologized.

I apologized because I know how it feels to be betrayed.
I know how it feels to lose trust in a person.
I know how it feels to be on the other side.

I apologized because I know how much it hurts inside and how much it eats you, piece by piece.
Rage, fear, both eat your mind slowly, they consume you, until you become a different person.

It’s not about who was right or wrong, it’s about who felt bad, who got hurt and who not.

It’s stupid to not apologize just because you’re right. You’re apologizing for a greater good, for the health of other people, people you love.

So why not try your best?

even if you’re good you can hurt people

But the conclusion shouldn’t be to not be good.

We need to be good, to inspire good actions. And even though our action were genuine, honest, true to our self, we need to act good anyway, even when we do it wrong.

Something will go wrong (I just experienced this because I naively behave without considering other people’s feeling), and our instinct will tell us “oh, it will be easier if you aren’t good” but that isn’t true. It’s our mind searching for shortcuts.

We can do it, it’s hard, but between good people we can do a lot.

are we all liars?

This morning I was speaking with a colleague of my girlfriend and she was quite disappointed in humanity.
Her take was that, whatever the person, we are all alone and very few people are worth considering.

I partly agree with the fact that at the end we’re all quite egoistic people and that hardly anyone would do something out of pure altruism.

That said I also believe that there is no such thing as a evil human being.
We are the result and the product of an entire life.
Even if a human would be evil in the 100% of his/her actions, those evilness would be there only because of his/her life, not because he/her was like that.

We build evil inside and let it grow the same way we grow prejudices, opinions and, ultimately, distrust.

So, while we’re living we have the power to decide which animal to grow and feed inside ourselves.
Evil, distrust, compassion, love, prejudice, hate.

Which one?
We decide.

 

the shortcut syndrome

Yesterday I wrote a post on my Italian blog about how we now seek shortcuts too often.

I have this syndrome too, and while I can’t blame the motivational video I watched in the past, I’m quite sure they have a role in this.

Why am I talking about self-help topic? Because that’s where it all starts.
We want money, success, we want to be able to spend what we want to buy the things we need or like, we want to be recognized to be considered successful.

Therefore we seek ways to do this, and there’s a market for that.
The self-help market is one of the most prolific market I could think of, it’s filled with tons of people advising how to get money, fame, girls and success in every possible niche.

I, partly, respect the self-help world, but I am also  aware of the many faces it has and one of them is the shortcut.
You know, many people in the industries will sell programs to get you from X to Y in Z time.
A shortcut, a way to get faster to your goal.

Shortcuts to get lean, shortcuts to get motivated or to get happy, shortcut to get rich.

What these programs don’t tell you is that success rarely happens overnight.
Success, happiness, body leanness are all the results of hours of work and dedication.

Think about it: Every self-help book/teacher will start by telling you the story of his/her struggles.
To fix that he dedicated time and effort, he devoted himself to change.

Now he/she’s offering you a faster way.
A shortcut.
And in fact they are not blaming. It’s faster because they know the rules now.

But faster doesn’t mean without effort.

This way of thinking constraint you into thinking there’s always a shortcut, but the good life is made of hard working and passion.
Is made of time you spend into things to build your life.

The shortcut syndrome is caused by all this information, we expect to be a shortcut for everything.
And while there’s a faster way, there might not be an effortless way, and so way give up because the shortcut isn’t working the way we wanted even though we had the power, we had the time.
The only thing that was truly missing was our will.

gratitude

I believe in gratitude. I think being grateful is one of the best thing in life, although you must know that forcing yourself to be grateful doesn’t really count.

You have to feel the gratitude, to express it deeply and freely within yourself first, and then to the world next.
Otherwise we are just talking about another way to be social, and that isn’t gratitude, it’s vanity.

If you are grateful just to have some light shed on you, then you’re not doing good to yourself.
Not to others, but to yourself.
Because even though you might end up being more likable to others, faking it won’t help you feel the beauty of the gratitude.

Today, say thanks.

whales

I didn’t think netflix would have some inspiring title, but I was proven wrong.

The Moving Art documentaries are somewhat magical because they show the beauty of nature without any commentary. To me this adds reality.

I know that you learn less than what you’d learn on a common documentary, but isn’t nature something you discover day by day?

One of the most intriguing things I saw were the whales. Their sound is strangely humanized, like a crying. It’s beautiful.