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Month: April 2016

integrity is a value you should respect

These days me and my gf are watching “Suits”, a nice american show, and one of the topics I’ve found recurring into these kind of tv series is integrity.

Even though the plot is quite standard what I don’t like is the fact that many character lose integrity during the show.

It’s quite common, I know, but as I continue to grow up I know how important integrity is.
Being clear, transparent, upfront, stick to the values and not compromising them for easy solutions.

Integrity has a price, but even for that price it’s worth it because it lets you stick to the best possible you.
Integrity is about respect, is about loving, is about being true to your values.

Also, integrity reminds me of the comparison between how the old couple addressed issues vs the new couples.

The new ones think the couple is broken and that they should change partners.
The old couples think the couple is broken and that they should fix it.

Integrity is about not running away, not skipping your work, it’s about doing your best and not regretting it because you’re not comparing the results but the passion you’ve put into it.

If all you think about is results, it’s hard to have so much integrity because you’ll always compare the results and when you lose you’ll only think about what made you lose.
Integrity is about thinking on a larger plan, staying true and on that scale if you compare the way you acted, then you have nothing to fear, to be ashamed, to be fearful, because you did your best.

why you should search email and why you should do it more often

Today at work I was asked a question, and since I don’t have a good memory I searched in all my inbox.

I wanted to understand how a feature for our program was developed, so I scanned the emails, and between them there were email of other coworkers full of joy, of passion for the work, of dedication.

Today, some of those feelings might have shifted, in only 2 years a radical change has happened.
It has happened day to day, not in a night or two. It happened without us noticing but we did all change.

This reminded me that we got to this and we didn’t learn from it.
We made mistake we are unaware of, we made hard choices and everything slowly shifted.

Searching for a single email showed me an entire course of events that led to this moment, and while I can’t change a thing, I am now aware of it all.

I wonder what would happen if we searched our personal email, if there was a way to “search” our memory. To recall unexpected events from the past.
To seek the beauty we witnessed in the past and learn from it, learn the beauty of life, learn from our mistakes, whatever.

We need more searching, we need to be aware of our past not to fall trapped into it but to move towards a better path.

even when everything goes wrong, there’s work to be done

This topic comes from time to time in my mind and the reason is that recently I discovered that, no matter how hard the day is, we still have to do our work.

There might come shitty days, days when your computer it’s slow, days when your connection sucks, and in those days you’ll still have to do the work.

Whatever the work, you’ll have to do it anyway so it would be better to accept it and face it, doing the best you can in the conditions you’re in.

we need more observer of the world

The idea behind writing every requires you to have at least a view on the world to share, a different take, every day.

This doesn’t mean that every content you produce is top-notch, but to make this habit interesting you want at least to be able to write profound things from time to time.

To get good ideas and make good points you need to observe the world, notice the things that happen around you, take notes and share what you learn from it.

It’s very similar to what a comedian does, he/she observe the world and than takes it what he or she likes and thinks it’s funny.
Doing this is awesome, but I personally found out that the more time you spend on a smartphone the less you’re prone to notice things and be a good observer.

You’re less likely to notice because the smartphone takes your time and your attention for a span of time that’s bigger than the use of the smartphone itself.
For example if you think you need to check your email you’re thinking about it before using the smartphone.
Then you use it, for like a few minutes, and then you need some time after using it to be able to interact with the world properly.

We need to be able to detach from this, and share our view with the world, or in a decade or two only a handful of people will be able to be good observer and the quality in the world will be much, much lower.

keep your promises

Promises are a real thing. Even though many of us might interpret them as volatile, less interesting, and sometimes feel they are a burden, they are not

Promises are great element to define how much you respect your word, how much you care about what you say and how you say it.

The way you keep promises also sets the bar on how much people can/will rely on you.
What would happen if you can’t be trusted?

If I had to give an advice it would be exactly this: Keep your promises.

marketing without gifting

One of the things I’m learning as an entrepreneur is understanding when marketing works and when it’s fake.

Many companies spend a lot in marketing and advertising.
I respect them, but I find myself thinking that advertising makes the game more complex than it should.

When you invest into a worthy product and you stand behind it, why should you advertise it?

The only form of advertising I like is explaining the product itself, but aside from that I wish that I’ll be able to sustain the business only thanks to word of mouth.

Word of mouth is probably the most powerful driver of all, because it allows you to grow with the user base.
An exponential growth is possible sometimes, but it’s not always a good thing because when you grow too fast you might end up loosing quality.

today almost anything attracts attention

Facebook, twitter, amazon, aliexpress. Whatever the website, they have algorithms to show things you’re interested to and keep you navigating, searching, etc.

They all have features to keep on site, because their business depends on it. But what are they giving back?
Your attention (and your time) is worth it, at least for you, so what should you do? Should you spending it wandering in millions of product pages?

It’s easy to fall into this trap, because we end up in those sites searching for something.
The interesting thing about them is that there’s always this lingering thought that something interesting might come up, they create this suspence, this anticipation.
But what if you’re searching for something that’s not gonna be found?

What if your search can’t end today?
The questions is not relevant in the success per se, but it’s more interesting if you look at it from a timed perspective.
Translated it means: Did you waste time?

If you don’t find what you were looking for, then was that time well spent? The answer is obviously no, but that doesn’t mean that we learn from it because these systems “work like google, but you don’t think they are a search engine”, in fact we are fooled by them.

In a search engine after a few pages everything is clearly irrelevant, useless.
In social media and powerful ecommerce you might spend hours of your time searching for something, only to think that “you’re almost there”.

The endless search or scrolling through facebook posts reminds me of an old habit we can’t remove once learned. It’s hard to change habits, but all of these sites are habit-forming.
They create a standard behaviour that you will iterate day after day once you become accustomed to it.

Yet, you’re not aware. You don’t have an indicator that the search is gonna end because if you keep scrolling or navigating the related items there’s no end.
One door leads to another door, and while in a search engine we have “pages” to say that we’re too far and less contextual to what we were looking for, here the line is blurred and we honestly don’t know, we don’t have a way to say “ok, I won’t be getting any more useful information from here”.

 

the courage to be different

Remember those times when you thought about your parents and you thought “I can do better. I won’t become like them“.

You knew that you could be different, that everything was clear and that you could improve it. It’s so easy right?

But how do you really do that? How do you avoid changing into something you didn’t expect/want to be?

I think that no matter what, when we are young we have still to define our main character. And with it many other things.
I think that even your worst enemy was once a nice guy. That the couples you watch fighting were once happy and in love.

They were perfect, they loved each other, but during the years many behaviours started to build up, to materialize, to become the default reaction.
You can’t pinpoint a date where it all changed because it’s a sum of many days, many actions, many ignorant choices.

And this is true for anyone. You either have the integrity to stay true to your belief or you change without noticing.
You become the ugly bad man.

You don’t change that fast, though. It takes years to make a change like this, but as with many things in life: it goes unnoticed.
You start reacting with too much rage.
Maybe you exaggerate some words, maybe you were stressed.
Maybe you saw someone acting harsh and you thought that it might work for you too, and you start emulating him from time to time.
Without noticing that time to time becomes your common reaction and you are “the guy that overreacts”, now you grow kids and you yell at them.

They watch you and say “I can do better, I won’t become like them