One of the best way to achieve a goal is to hide it from the world.
There are many reasons behind this idea, the most obvious is the fact that people might lower your enthusiasm, expectations or whatever, lowering, de facto, your possibilities of success.
But also they might do other things, like adding complexity.
For example you might have a great idea, which will be great.
Many great ideas will start with project that are terrible, if you listen to one of the first 99% invisible podcast you’ll realize how bad it was, compared to the quality it has now.
It has become so populare in spite of it becase the underlying idea was good.
If they tried adding more quality and complexity to begin with maybe they wouldn’t have been able to keep up with the rythmn and they would have stopped gaining track.
Or what if a friend add some pressure because they have such high expectations for your project?
A project should be like a plant. It should grow at its own rate, taking what’s needed, without trying to be more.
A life without errors would be awesome. I would sure sign for it. You would even lose the need to meditate, since there will be no errors and troubles whatsoever.
Yet, we can’t have it all and eventually we’ll take a wrong turn, put our foot in the wrong position, make the wrong choice.
It’s not something we can foresee. It’s part of doing things.
We’ll get stressed, but it’s not sure that each and every wrong step will turn into a failure.
Sometimes the bad results will give you a different angle on a situaton, allowing you to have more, with less.
It happened to me with my wedding, when we had to change the place where we eat, and moved onto a big villa, and it might have happened today.
Until you get the results it’s hard to imagine if this problem will become something beautiful, but there’s no solution other than wait and discover it.
The hard part is to stay still and not let the mind wander, because as usual the situations we see in our heads are fare more catastrophic than the one we live in our lives.
Lately I am thinking about moving onto bluetooth for music listening and call answer, but I am always blocked on what to do or choose.
I love products made by apple, but I didn’t consider the airpods to be an option. Too high priced, not necessarely so good, bla bla bla.
I started looking at bluetooth earphones, then moved onto more pricey ones, like the plantronics backbeat.
Today I decided to take a look at the airpods, and the first thing I noticed, that I never really discovered before, is that they automatically switch based on what you’re doing.
Like: you’re listening to the mac? They play the mac music. You receive a call? You hear the call, and so on.
All the pieces of the puzzle went back together in place.
Lately apple decided to not entirely disable the bluetooth/wifi. Now the reason is even more clearer. It’s partly because of this too. It’s the seamless experience they’re after. Something that cannot be found in any other product.
Such seamless context switch is something only apple products actually produce, and while at first sight the airpods might seem like a simple bluetooth earphone, they’re much more than that, but it’s not that visible.
And here lies the apple’s magic.
I consider myself a fairly knowledgeable person. I know lots of things, but I also am aware that I’m absolutely ignorant about many topics.
I also analyze information slowly, so I suck at giving great fast answers. I need to think and evaluate the situations, if I don’t, I choose the wrong solution.
Even though I have this knowledge, there is still so much more you can learn, even from people that come from different contexts.
Today I was waiting in a hospital room, with some people that intentionally didn’t use a smartphone, and used an old clamshell phone. Which is fine, btw. But it comes obviously from a different context than mine.
With a little bit of pride I was about to think that I was somewhat more informed than them, when they started talking about privacy (in a very high level style, not going deep into the issues). They switched context and talked about callcenters. Right now in italy it’s quite common to get calls from unwanted companies, spam calls per se. And this man said “Never say yes, because they can use the yes as a confirmation. Even if they ask you if you are Name Surname, don’t say yes, say ‘please, continue’ , but not yes”.
I didn’t considered it, and it was enlightening to hear.
Today I made some children unhappy, not because I wanted to but because I was unable to keep a promise.
I don’t have excuses, in my mind I told them that we could play after dinner, but in the end it didn’t happen.
I gave them my excuses, but I know it won’t be enough, and that’s the beauty of kids.
They take your promises seriously.
Something that we, as grown up, forget.
We are so used to lying, to fake promises, to the social mask that allows us to promise the world while not having any downside, that it’s so beautiful to see a kid being angry because we didn’t kept our promises.
They value our words much more than us and this should light a bulb in our heads.
I’m preparing for my first (and I hope last :D) wedding.
A wedding is first of all a bond that you decide to make with another person, secondly a wedding is a party that you want to throw. You want to make a party you’ll remember, a party that’ll stay in your memories for a long time.
To get there there is a lot of stress, useless products you buy and test, lots of trial and error.
I think the whole wedding can and should be simpler, but it’s hard to not fall into the usual traps.
Some things are not important, other are trivials, and it’s quite easy in the midst of the war to mix the two categories.
While preparing my wedding I realized that people infer time in many different ways.
When you think about “ok, I’ve got to do 150 presents for the guests” each person will think of a different time, some might say days, some hours, some might even think it takes weeks.
What I found out is that I got a good sense of how much time it takes to do things, and in cases like this I wonder how much my job as software developer has to do with this skill.
The ability to understand the time it takes to do a task and repeat it, adding some error, relax time, etc. Maybe it’s just that I know my times, maybe I’m starting to get a hold of new information.
What it also made clear is that planning is useless until you also do something.
Each time, each day. This will make the change and the difference.
The hard thing about scheduling is not confusing it with better life or better control.
A schedule is a plan.
A plan can fail.
Today is the black friday, a day made for spending money.
People all over the world wait for this day so spend a loooot of money.
But to me this black friday was different. I used it to unsubscribe to all newsletters.
And it was magic.
Because during black friday eveyrone is doing some sort of promotion so you always end up with the inbox clutered with tons of email. I think today I received 20, 30 maybe.
And guess what? I unsubscribed.
I realized many of the newsletter I was waiting for did only steal my time, didn’t add value and, to be honest, didn’t interest me that much.
The other problem with black friday is that if you’re the one sending emaisl for marketing you must know how to get past the noise. How can you attract attention so that your email gets read.
I favour much more spontaneus “black friday” days made up by companies to avoid this issue, like amazon prime day. It makes things easier.
Maybe they are harder to remember, but if you care about a brand, a shop, or a product, maybe you’ll be more interested in buying afterall.
There are so many things in life that can go wrong, and enough that will go wrong.
We can’t avoid them, we can’t foresee them, we can’t do anything about them except accepting them.
We might be angry because they happen, but in fact we might be even more surprised of what happens when we don’t get angry.
We might lead the way., inspire, be an example to follow.