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Month: June 2016

the big crash

Today I got hit. Not by a real crash, but from a situation I couldn’t in any way foresee.

One of the worst situation.

Now, in these cases you don’t have that much left. You wonder what will be left of you, what happens and what chances do you have to fix it.

Shit happens, it always will.
My idea about this is to make the best we can do and take deep breaths so that you keep treating everyone in the same way as you used to.

the things you forget and leave behind

There are memories that you forget, that you leave behind. Memories that after a while become “a thing of the past”.

They are no more relevant, of no interest.
You changed, and they are part of something that doesn’t belong to you.

Ex’s are a great example of that. There is a time when you feel you can’t get past your broken love story, but then you do, and you go forward.
And if you have the chance to notice how much did you forget you realize that this whole thing became part of your past, not your present.

On the other side there are things that linger. I can’t say it differently.
Things that stays with you in the night, like horror movies, things that pull out the worst of you even if you don’t know.
Like broken walls in a house, like creeps in your heart.
The less you have, the better.

If they stays with you, then it’s time for you to think about why you’re letting them.
I have a dear friend who still thinks about a relationship of a long time ago. Too much time to justify this lingering.

He didn’t move on, at least from my perspective, and it’s blocked into a story when he can’t win because he let this feeling stay with him.

Don’t linger. Move.

the step between 90% and 95% 

In software development it’s quite common to think “I finished” and then discover that you’re far from finished. You still have to polish the result.

And the funny thing is that finishing the last part of the work, that 5 or 10%, is much more difficult requires more focus and attention because you need to polish things up, to be precise, to look out for small errors only the best users would find.

It requires people to think outside the box, to imagine where they could have put an error, what could go wrong, to make it pretty and respect the work and effort the designers put into the prototype so that it can become pixel perfect.

Going from 90% to 95% is an astonishing work, going to 99% is even more beautiful and challenging and it’s what makes software development so difficult.
You can settle much more early than 90% and feel like you’ve finished. The hard part is keeping up with the schedule and deliver at least a 95%.

what’s important and what’s not

What’s important requires you to not multitask. What’s important requires you to focus, to stay in line and work hard.

What’s not important can be multi-tasked in the illusion of “I can do this together”.
What’s not important will take your time but give nothing back.

What’s important will ask for your full attention while what’s not important needs only a part of it.
And that small part is enough to steer away from the important things.

The things you should do, the things that make the difference.

Focus, instead of multitask.

the future of britain and the vote of the joung people after brexit

Today marks the day where the britain gets out of the EU. Which is not a real surprise.

What’s a surprise is that the majority of the young people voted to stay in the EU, while the older voted to exit from it.

My question is: Who should we trust? The young or the old? The wise or the excited.
Although I feel like I’m on the young side I wonder if the front that choose the exit has some more knowledge, foreseeability or something like that, that we should be aware of.

you’re always risking and you might even change yourself in the process

Today I was angry, not that I wanted to, but I felt very frustrated because I couldn’t be effective in helping someone do his job.

It’s sad I know, but in this whole process I tried my best to stay true to my values, to treat people accordingly with all the good I can, to explain my reasoning and never be aggressive.

It’s easy to be aggressive, to shout. It’s the shortcut. And sometimes it works perfectly, which leads you to the conclusion that it’s an effective method.

But it’s a risk, a gamble.

Few days ago I was talking to a dear friend about emotions and feelings. He thought that being angry was ok, that there was nothing wrong with it because it’s part of the range of emotions that you have, so you should express it, he said.

I, on the contrary, believe that negative emotions shouldn’t be expressed because they reinforce their behaviour.

He told me that love was in the same league, but I couldn’t explain why not.
Thinking, few days later, I realized that he was right on the last part.
Love, anger, etc, are all in the same league.
They are changing emotions.
The more time you give to them, the more you let them influence you.

That’s why expressing rage it’s a risk, a gamble. Because it changes you in a subtle way, and you might not even recognize yourself in a few years.

The more you give to it, the more you change.
I did my best to stay calm and understand the situation. When I got home I realized I was really stressed out and I needed to pause and reflect.

If something’s not working the best thing you can do is always to pause and look at the situation from a different angle. Approach the problem from a different perspective.
You enter in the “What if” world, where you consider each and every one of the possible “what if” until you hit the right one.

politics and sports

These days in italy there were elections.
I once had very strong opinions about what I wanted to vote and so on. But after some time I became much more benevolent to other’s people opinion.

The main reason for this is that I now recognize how much useless is spending time convincing other people of your opinion.
Everyone has an opinion on politics and if we only take sides like in sports (mine is good, yours is bad) we can hardly escape the cage. We will always fight to see who’s “right” and who’s “wrong”.
Even if only time will tell.

There is no right or wrong, there are people trusting people, hoping they will do a good work in their interest or the interest of the country, but there is no right.
Right, wrong, are decided after the govern has done its job, after 5 years you can say “Ok, this was a good/bad choice”.
And we’re still not talking about “right”/”wrong”, because there is no such thing.
There might be a good choice if they followed your expectations or surpassed it, or they might be a bad choice if they didn’t.
And btw: they can’t please everyone.

Taking sides makes all this politic much more of a game, much more like sports. But what’s the gain if we reduce everything to a game where we take sides? How can we expect a cultural change if all we want is to crush the opposition and change the mind of the people that think in a way we don’t even conceive?

If all we do is fighting, even in this context, how can we expect a culture of peace to grow?