Few days ago a dear friend of mine told me that she eventually resolved an issue with her husband. They didn’t get along one topic and this was causing them some issues.
They’ve known each others for 7 years, so it was hard, but not impossible.
Then she told me “Now the hard part will be discussing with my mother”.
And she was right.
Because when we build a relation for such a long time we build it on common ground. But while time passes, we add some extra building blocks. Some good, some bad.
The bad ones are things like trust, prejudice, etc.
Things you accumulate over the years and that define the relationship in both ways.
That’s why it’s harder. You have to dismantle, on both sides, 40 years of building blocks.