We might be fooled into thinking that when life is predictable it gets boring.
But predictability has its pros, one of which is the ability to handle chaos, unpredictable things, because you are prepared, ready for them, your mind clean, and you know how to use your time.
This needs to be adaptable, to learn how to handle unpredictable outcomes, but it’s not the predictability that can make something boring, in fact it enhances it because once you know the rules, then it’s time to master the game.
You can be talking about software, or even about yourself, but the question would still matter.
It’s rare to have something perfect, a software that has no flaws, no limits. I’d say almost impossible.
So what do you do? Do you plan to follow up your competitors on the feature they are strong, or empower your customers with the features they love for you?
That’s a common dilemma in software building. Time is finite, and thus we need to choose what to do.
We can’t do it all. But even if we choose to fix the flaws, new will come and it will be a neverending journey.
Balancing this is a matter of understanding where are the major frustrations but also having a deep appreciation of what works for your business. Because if what works got you here, in there is something valuable you shouldn’t forget.a
And the same goes for people. It’s ok to have a growth mindset, but you won’t ever be perfect.
Today I was checking some headline news of a news website and I noticed that an entire block of it was all about people.
Titles like ” imitates her mother, : ‘it never happened before’”.
I get that this is entertainment that titles like these appeal to a specific audience I’m not part of.
On the other hand I continue to wonder: How does knowing, and reading, this let us grow, what does it teach?
There can be things we read that don’t teach us anything, fiction can be often like that, but in this case, I wonder why we do feel the need to read about people we don’t know who we are not friends with, that are barely part of our life, compared to stories of our friends and so on.
Yes, these titles and events about famous people can entertain us, but how much of these articles will stay with us? How much of it will be some kind of useful memory?
Of all the people in the world, I wonder why we keep reaching out to the most distant one, instead of slowly understanding the people around us, each and every day.
Everything can look important until it’s not.
All of our actions, needs, both in life and work can have some sense of urgency. But is that real? Will that urgency actually have consequences we care about?
And even if there are some consequences, how do they stack up against the rest?
Years ago, while looking at an ecommerce I would often say: If everything is on sale, nothing is.
The same applies to urgency. If everything is urgent, nothing is. And the ability to pick one thing and prioritize it is what makes urgency itself worthwhile.
Because now we are giving value and space to that request of “I need this now”.
After having a child, some people start feeling they’re not “free anymore”.
As if they’re trapped somewhere they can’t escape.
Freedom, as many other things, is partly a state of mind. It’s the gap between what I want to do and what I actually do.
Note the fact that I’m saying “what I actually do” and not “what I’m allowed to do”.
Why? We often choose to do something, we spontaneously limit ourselves.
As a result we feel like our freedom has been taken away by the children.
“It’s the same though”, you might say and I would also partly agree, but if we look closer I’d also add that this feeling of not being free is also a gap in adaptation. It’s like being used to drive sports car and then buying a utility cart and expect they work the same way.
They do not, and we adapt to that, there’s no freedom missing. We knew it and we can drive the utility car just as well.
When you miss freedom it’s worth asking: What am I missing? What’s the thing I want to do that I can’t do it anymore?
By going deeper into this question, by understanding which choices led to this moment, you might see what’s the things you truly miss.
Embrace the boredom, the imperfections, the time when you are terrible at doing things.
Embrace it because it’s part of life, embrace it because making it perfect won’t make it real.
Embrace it because you will start to learn how to cope with that feeling and be comfortable with it.
Not because life should be made of boredom or being uncomfortable.
But because life -will- be uncomfortable and if you are able to cope with it, getting to the next step will always be easier.
Where do you place yourself in a scale of learning?
How frequent you like to learn?
Do you like to realize that you still have a long way to go before achieving some mastery in a skill?
Learning is not optional. We continuously learn something, from life, from work, from friendships.
There is an infinite game and you can either enjoy the game or simply be influenced by it.
With a small caveat: If you decide to play, then you have more chances to choose what you want to learn. Set the direction, sail towards new islands.
It’s up to you.
It’s hard to look at the recent layoffs (Microsoft, Google, etc) and not think about the many times the phrase “I take full responsibility for this” has been said.
A while ago I watched a Simon Sinek video where he would explain how, in modern culture, it’s ok to layoff people to make the numbers match so that the company appears in a healthy (or wealthy) state.
Whenever I hear “I take full responsibility” I always wonder what is the price they’re paying. Because looking from here, it seems to me that the only trouble they’ll get into is mostly about their public image, but there won’t be any internal consequences.
How would they stop this from happening again? What didn’t work out?
Why did they make the hiring in the first place?
Because even while reading the full press announcements, those questions go unanswered, and I feel they shouldn’t.
Whenever I learn something new I remember of Starcraft, an old strategy game for PC.
There, the entire map was hidden to you and you didn’t have any idea of what was there until you started walking and exploring that part of the map.
Once you explored it, then it would become part of the map you know.
Learning, to me, is very similar, and it’s both mapping a territory and building structures on it.
We’ve all been there. We are bored while doing something. We would much rather prefer being somewhere else and doing something we enjoy.
We live in the age of boredom, or maybe we live in the age of high entertainment.
Notifications from your app, gamification in anything to create little addictions.
The boredom in some cases might be artificial. A result of how many of the apps we use now demand our attention.
One of the thoughts that always comes to my mind when I’m bored doing something that I would qualify as “Real, normal life” is to jump onto my smartphone and use some app.
But where’s the pleasure? Being immersed in some kind of digital experience, even though funny or entertaining, is a constructed reward and pleasure.
There’s no gain, no growth, nothing you learn or live that you will remember.
That feeble moment will disappear in our memories together with all the similar ones.
If you look at it from the outside, afterall, looking at a smartphone is kinda boring.
Yet we can’t do something different.
Want to change? Enjoy the boredom. Don’t escape from it. Embrace it as a way to diminish the habit of using your smartphone to cope with that boredom.