What will you do when you fail is something that might mark your life.
Success, failure, are just steps of a process of research, and as such shouldn’t contain sadness.
They are just part of life.
But when we talk about failure, sadness appears because you’re implicitly judging yourself for not being able to reach your goal.
We confuse the failure in the process with a failure with ourselves, when it’s really not.
We just have to find the right way to do it.
I believe failure and the resulting sadness is all a matter of questions.
The wrong questions are something like
- why am I failing so much?
- why am I such a failure?
- why can’t I do it?
They are generic questions, and some of them assume the problem is you as a whole being, not your actions or choices.
The good questions instead are precise, defined, clear
- I failed doing this, was it because A, B or C?
- What could I change to make it?
- Is there anything else I can learn to improve?
Success is just a part of the process too. So don’t be fooled from it.
When you succeed avoid thinking you won’t fail again.