Author: Andrea Grassi

What will you do when you fail is something that might mark your life.

Success, failure, are just steps of a process of research, and as such shouldn’t contain sadness.

They are just part of life.
But when we talk about failure, sadness appears because you’re implicitly judging yourself for not being able to reach your goal.

We confuse the failure in the process with a failure with ourselves, when it’s really not.
We just have to find the right way to do it.

I believe failure and the resulting sadness is all a matter of questions.
The wrong questions are something like

1. why am I failing so much?
2. why am I such a failure?
3. why can’t I do it?

They are generic questions, and some of them assume the problem is you as a whole being, not your actions or choices.

The good questions instead are precise, defined, clear

• I failed doing this, was it because A, B or C?
• What could I change to make it?
• Is there anything else I can learn to improve?

Success is just a part of the process too. So don’t be fooled from it.

When you succeed avoid thinking you won’t fail again.

Have you ever wanted to stop doing something?
Or, worse, did you stopped doing something you once loved because you didn’t care about it anymore?

This is a usual setup when we experience a Burnout in a work environment.
When you experience a burnout you suddenly (at least for me) try to save yourself by reducing the things you do.

Not the one you need to do, just the added value you were contributing to your daily work.
And the reason is often because we stop caring about things.

Passion, therefore, is not only a synonym of what we love, but it’s more than ever shows how much deeply we care .

Passion isn’t only driven by how much we like things but it’s mainly driven by how much we care about them or their results.

If you find yourself lacking passion, ask: is there a reason why I don’t care anymore?

A year is a long time.

It passes like a day, I know, but in fact during one entire year lots of good and bad shit happens and we end up forgetting some of them.

That’s why we should keep track of what we are doing.
To remember, to love. to discover what was wonderful, to remember every single step along this journey.

There will always be bad times, and those times will stay attached to your memory way more better than the good ones.
So make space for the ones worth remembering, the good, the wonderful, the beautiful.

Make space for them so they won’t be a number and you’ll end up thinking that yes, it was a long journey, but it was worth the trouble.

If all the love was done onto you then it would be the perfect day.

Having love, discovering love, living love, is one of the most powerful things that could ever happen to you.
If it happens, then it’s your perfect day.

When people care, when people move for you, that’s when you feel the change, the power, the intimacy.
That’s what love is all about.

But to  make this powerful change happen there is one caveat we must face: We are the ones entitled to do love to others.

We can’t nor should expect love to come to us, instead we must spread it as a virus, as a viral video on you tube.
Love, empathy, presence, whatever you prefer, is something we must start doing constantly on every single person we meet during our life.

Bad thoughts seem always like the right thing, it’s absolutely normal to think that it’s best to share them with someone.

Sharing our dark thoughts seems compelling, but is that useful? Does that help with solving the problem?

If all we do is keep  complaining than it’s difficult to find an exit to the tunnel.
That way, it’s best to keep your mouth shut, and understand why you feel the urge to share such bad thought.