It takes courage to do what you can’t foresee in the future, what you know will be painful.
It takes courage to go into a steep road that will take effort and time to complete and might not be finished you.
It takes courage to dive into the unknown.
But what if you didn’t take the leap?
What if it stayed this way.
Would your life be better?
If you don’t study for an exam, what will be the result?
Work, life, is very much the same. If we don’t prepare, then the outcome will be the same. Things happen, things we couldn’t foresee, and they happen all the time.
It’s not how, it’s when. And if you’re not prepared, if you only think about the now, then you will be doomed to follow what happens.
It’s not a matter of believing in something.
You can believe many things, but only a handful of those deserve the right to fight, to stand up and protect our vision.
It’s all about knowing which are the battle you want to be in.
If there are none, it means your thoughts are meaningless, powerless, because no matter what you say or think, you won’t stand for it.
But if you have some ideas you’d like to protect, are you gonna accept a compromise?
Are you gonna permit an exception to the rule?
It seems riskless, a sane thing to do, but what you’re doing by allowing it is to reduce the value of what you believe in.
If you can settle for less today, you can settle for even less tomorrow.
It’s not a matter of when anymore, it’s a matter of how much.
Afterall beliefs are much like habits. The more you protect them, the more they last.
If anyone tells you that you only got two alternatives to choose from, think twice.
They’re right, from their point of view, but what’s missing in the picture is that there are countless alternatives, as long as you can imagine them.
The two options proposed to you are just the one they can see, but they don’t count the extra ones you can see, or the ones a friend can see.
You can stretch your mind and find alternatives as sound and as crazy as possible. Things you didn’t consider, things you excluded.
It’s not that your world will only have two choices. It’s just that those choices are the one the people are aware of.
One simple rule: If you’re getting paid then you must be accountable for your work, for the quality, for the output.
If you don’t get paid, but you give your word, it’s the same because you’re defining an outcome and as such, you can’t abandon the project.
It’s up to you to manage those expectations, to communicate, to set goals. But in the end you will need to be accountable and take your responsibilities, because if you don’t then some people might even wonder: What am I paying him for?
We all need some change. Not because we’re not being understood or because we feel our potential hasn’t been expressed.
No, we need it to get out of our confort zone, to conquer again new lands, to understand different parts of the world.
Change, is somewhat a cure.
There are times when you can’t fight the bad. Maybe you’re out of energy, luck, whatever.
In those times: ignore it, don’t make it count, don’t make it rule your world.
Sounds like simple advice, but it’s actually really hard.
Maybe you got a friend that had a relationship with someone famous. You’ll be tempted to use that as a story to tell to your friends.
“I know someone that…”
But why even do it? It’s not gonna make you famous, nor better.
There are the ones that dictate what to do and the one that ask you what to choose from. They evaluate the possibilities through help.
Some peiple might instead decide that their idea is the only one we can support. They might not doing because they feel like they’re the best, so you should not judge them.
What you should do instead is guiding them through discovering other option, understanding the complexity of the world so that you can arrive at a different conclusion, for a different outcome.
It’s only at the extreme that you can see and understand what your limits are.
How do you react when you’re angry, hopeless, drunk?
How much control do you have in those situations? That’s when the worst part of you shows up and it’s up to you if you want to listen to it or not. It’s up to you to decide which road to take.
It’s quite normal to fail, I would be surprised of the opposite, but at the same time, it’s in these moments that we learn about ourselves.
Some people might argue “In vino veritas”, meaning that once drunk you’ll be more of “yourself”.
To me being drunk resemble any of the other conditions like being angry.
It’s not about being a control freak, it’s about understanding what moves us in the worst way.