criticising

I was reading “bird by bird” and this quote struck with me:
“A critic is someone who comes onto the battlefield after the battle is over and shoots the wounded”.

There’s something true about this, when we’re criticizing that’s what we often do. The position we start the discussion is not a place of love or interested, we tend to criticize to disrupt and destroy.

I’m guilty of that, both toward others and toward myself. As it often happens: I’m my own worst critic and it’s not something I can change in one day.
But there it is, a quote that summarizes perfectly what it means to criticize. 

Here it lies, in plain sight, what your contribution to the world will be, if you choose that path, and the truth is: we have plenty of options to act differently.

By choosing a different time, by being mindful and kind, by understanding the other person’s point of view before talking, by counting to 10, by having an open heart and an open mind, by sharing the harsh truth from a different perspective, and with the intent of letting us grow.

There are lots and countless options, way better than being a critic.
Let your discussions and ideas intertwine instead of shooting them to others.