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If all the love was done onto you then it would be the perfect day.

Having love, discovering love, living love, is one of the most powerful things that could ever happen to you.
If it happens, then it’s your perfect day.

When people care, when people move for you, that’s when you feel the change, the power, the intimacy.
That’s what love is all about.

But to  make this powerful change happen there is one caveat we must face: We are the ones entitled to do love to others.

We can’t nor should expect love to come to us, instead we must spread it as a virus, as a viral video on you tube.
Love, empathy, presence, whatever you prefer, is something we must start doing constantly on every single person we meet during our life.

Bad thoughts seem always like the right thing, it’s absolutely normal to think that it’s best to share them with someone.

Sharing our dark thoughts seems compelling, but is that useful? Does that help with solving the problem?

If all we do is keep  complaining than it’s difficult to find an exit to the tunnel.
That way, it’s best to keep your mouth shut, and understand why you feel the urge to share such bad thought.

Yesterday I was talking to a friend,, once I shared with him my 2015 goals he said that he too wanted to do that many things (I was talking about contributing to opensource and so on) but he just couldn’t make it.
When he got home, he didn’t have the will to do it and he slacked.

I don’t think he really slacked, I’m much more convinced that we have different priorities.
Some priorities are just invisible to us, because we are not able to distinguish “real interest” from “faux interest”.

Real interest is something that drives you deeply, it’s what you think during your day. It’s a motivator of your life.
If you are doing martial arts 3 times a week constantly, you probably have a real interest going on there.

This doesn’t mean that the real interest will last forever. Some times it’s just a mood, some time will just go away in a few weeks.
But for those few weeks it’s on your mind with a big red light that says “Follow me” and your interest is there.

Faux interest can be pictured like something we want to do but that in the end we end up not doing.
It’s the “I’d love to do that, but I’m just too busy”.

I believe there’s some sort of emulation here. We want to emulate success (which, in my modest case I think it’s just “doing a lot of things”) or results.

We are attracted to that idea, and so when we say “I want do build a product, to learn japanese, to learn to dance” what we really mean is “I want to earn lots of money with a successful product, I want to be attractive thanks to my languages, I want to not be embarassed when I’m dancing” and so on.

It’s a subtle trick of our mind.
If we got something we didn’t quite do but we wanted to do so much, maybe it’s time to consider why we care about it and we’re not willing to move a finger for it.

I am an introvert, at least I think so, and one of the things I always found out true about myself is determination.
Which shouldn’t be confused with the fact that I, occasionally, procrastinate as much as anyone out here in the world.

Being an introvert gives you a place to think of, where your time is the most valuable thing.
Introverts, like me, tend to think about the situations to learn from them and act accordingly.

We don’t learn by body, we learn by mind (if this sounds a bit strange, think of it of body memory and mind memory, that’s the idea).
It’s our mind that slowly process information and creates pattern to react instead of learning invisibly by the body.

This is not always a good thing, since we are (at least myself) really slow at learning by body or without thoughts on the matter.

Being an introvert thaught me to value my words, to listen to my mind and to move forward slowly and steadly, knowing that I will get to the point eventually.