“You don’t dress like you used to”. These words might come out when talking about how you were dressing when you were single.
Your wife might even think this. Dressing was a form of love, get laid, or even a form of trying to get some more attention. To her this was a way to get only her eyes. You did it only for her, and it was true.
Now you do the small things that aren’t noticeable by the eyes, and it seems that “you don’t care anymore”, but in both cases it was all in the eyes, and in the attention to read the details.
When you think about raising a child the first question that might come to your mind is: will I do better than my parents?
It’s hard to say if that will happen. How will you measure it?
We are guided by our ego, by the desire to be great but in fact when we think about children we project our ego onto our children. That is the limit.
We should try to remove the constraints that left our bittersweet memories. We should not be angry for the stupid small things, children don’t care about things like money, after all. What they are after are the experiences, the extraordinary things in daily life.
One thing I loved about this topic is a dad that takes out his son on stormy days, because a good day shouldn’t be defined by the weather, but by what you do.
It’s easy to live your life as a continuous flow of events that belong to your life. Worrying about what happens to you, where to put your things, etc.
It’s another story to entertwine those things, to live your life as a mix of other’s lives, worrying about what happens to you both, etc.
It’s painful to see so many big companies asking to share posts, as if sharing would make it spread.
A big company has more money, can have a bigger plan, yet we see such amateurs sharing posts.
An idea can spread only if worthwhile. An idea is like any other product: It works if it’s good and solves something. A problem, a desire, whatever. Your idea must be effective, interesting, thus leading to people sharing your post.
But it’s not you that will make it popular. You’re not Tony Robbins, you don’t have this following. And even if you do you’ll think twice before sharing a post that’s not so good, because you’re lose the trust you earned.
Sometimes is enough to say thank you, to avoid a fight, to enjoy the heat and the summer blu sky.
Racism as much as maschilism is in the little things. It’s in those small phrases, conceptually wrong, but socially acceptable. It’s in the “come on, I was joking”, it’s in the subtle things that lies in our head even though we don’t say.
When racism explode and you’re not part of that movement it doesn’t necessarely means you’re out of it. There might be from time to time thoughts, misconceptions, that belong to racism. And thus you have that racist part you have to get rid of.
But when it explodes it means that everyone has something to fix. Even those against racism.Because those things are hidden in the daily life, in the little things, in the things we don’t consider dangerous, but truly are.
These days mars is more red, luminous than ever. Probably because of the distance from earth.
We were lying on our bed, looking at the red planet, her body defined by the shy lights of the city, defining her borders in the night.
In days like this I wonder: Will we have the chance to remember this. Will I remember this moment? Is there a way I can fix it into my memories?
Hard to know. Many great moments pass by, many terrible moments are sculpted into our brain like there’s nothing more important.
But we wish, hope, that some moments might stay with us a longer period of time.
Those moments when we feel we’re grasping the beauty of it right in the middle, and not after years. Those moments where you realize that yes, this is where I want to be.
We should have more of these moments, more of the realizations that keep us present, living each and every instant of our life, focusing on one at a time, because that’s our life, and time, goes.
When you want to create something big, how do you decide when the product it’s ready for showtime? When you’re at the most good viable product that people can enjoy?
When you’re spending too much time refining, when you’re starting to lose passion, that is the extreme time when you should play the all-in. All or nothing, because chances are that if you wait more you’ll lose timing, excellence, customers.
To have a company that will work well when you can’t be there you have to design as many workflow and automations possible. You have to remove yourself from the variables, from the parts of the engine that are required to work.
You must become the captain that leads the way in the dark times, that steers away from the perils,you must be useless for the day to day task, but needed to let the company grow.
It doesn’t matter how good you are, how your idea are better than others. The only way to make them real is to be consistent, to show up each and every day, rain or sunshine. Keep pushing until you make it.