There will come days when you won’t have something to say, to write, to improve.
Days when there doesn’t seem to be a hope. But there’s always a way.
You can find words, ideas, in each day of your life, but to do that you have to stick with it even if you don’t believe it.
As Stephen King told, to write even when the muse is off.
Because the muse will come.
It happens. You work so much but you seems stuck into a maze. No solution on the horizon to be found.
What to do then? You could continue searching for it, but there’s a fine line between success and failure, between understanding when’s the right time to quit.
That decision is part of your job. And there’s a time to put up the white flag, to accept the fact that you don’t have skills or time to get to a solution in the required time. You need more, but you also need to make it work.
That’s when a wrong solution is fine. You comply with the request, knowing perfectly you still have a work to do, but that work cannot be accomplished so easily.
It’s the MVP concept, applied to real problems.
There’s a gap in our mind.A gap between our expectations and reality, a gap that talks about the way we expect our place in the world to be.
A dear friend of mine talked to me about the fact that he feels useless in his daily job. I didn’t agree at all, knowing his efforts to make things better.
But yet he felt this, this gap, this sensation that we are powerless, useless in front of the situations we live in.
It’s a trick our minds prepare to us. Should we be useful? I think so, but the next question is: Are we able to understand our impact in the world?
My answer is yes, only if we listen to other people.
If we only listen to our mind we will always have a partial vision of what’s happening. We’ll leave out the details and fall for the trap.
Our impact in the world is defined by the response in the world, not by our ideas of it.
There’s nothing more frustrating than hearing “I told you so”, but we should be happy about it because when we hear it we have a chance to learn.
To discouver our flaws, our biases.
Each time we hear an “I told you so” there’s an unknown bias that we have the chance to discover and understand.
“You don’t dress like you used to”. These words might come out when talking about how you were dressing when you were single.
Your wife might even think this. Dressing was a form of love, get laid, or even a form of trying to get some more attention. To her this was a way to get only her eyes. You did it only for her, and it was true.
Now you do the small things that aren’t noticeable by the eyes, and it seems that “you don’t care anymore”, but in both cases it was all in the eyes, and in the attention to read the details.
When you think about raising a child the first question that might come to your mind is: will I do better than my parents?
It’s hard to say if that will happen. How will you measure it?
We are guided by our ego, by the desire to be great but in fact when we think about children we project our ego onto our children. That is the limit.
We should try to remove the constraints that left our bittersweet memories. We should not be angry for the stupid small things, children don’t care about things like money, after all. What they are after are the experiences, the extraordinary things in daily life.
One thing I loved about this topic is a dad that takes out his son on stormy days, because a good day shouldn’t be defined by the weather, but by what you do.
It’s easy to live your life as a continuous flow of events that belong to your life. Worrying about what happens to you, where to put your things, etc.
It’s another story to entertwine those things, to live your life as a mix of other’s lives, worrying about what happens to you both, etc.
It’s painful to see so many big companies asking to share posts, as if sharing would make it spread.
A big company has more money, can have a bigger plan, yet we see such amateurs sharing posts.
An idea can spread only if worthwhile. An idea is like any other product: It works if it’s good and solves something. A problem, a desire, whatever. Your idea must be effective, interesting, thus leading to people sharing your post.
But it’s not you that will make it popular. You’re not Tony Robbins, you don’t have this following. And even if you do you’ll think twice before sharing a post that’s not so good, because you’re lose the trust you earned.
Sometimes is enough to say thank you, to avoid a fight, to enjoy the heat and the summer blu sky.
Racism as much as maschilism is in the little things. It’s in those small phrases, conceptually wrong, but socially acceptable. It’s in the “come on, I was joking”, it’s in the subtle things that lies in our head even though we don’t say.
When racism explode and you’re not part of that movement it doesn’t necessarely means you’re out of it. There might be from time to time thoughts, misconceptions, that belong to racism. And thus you have that racist part you have to get rid of.
But when it explodes it means that everyone has something to fix. Even those against racism.Because those things are hidden in the daily life, in the little things, in the things we don’t consider dangerous, but truly are.