Category: Blog

If we keep talking and complain, if we keep giving our bad voice a stage we will just continue to let our prejudice grow upon us, to change us.

Many people online believe we are what we do, not only what we say.
But listening to this motto might hide a different issue.

Saying something is doing something.
You chose the words, you chose the context and the people whom you shared the information with.
You took a decision that’s much more deeper than you thought.

Slowly, the single act of repeating something will turn into a bad mantra, an habit that will grow a new beard on you, an invisible beard you can’t recognize.

This beard will define you from here on, it’s your mark, your tatoo.
It’s what you are now.

Giving space to some bad thoughts and prejudice is not just a matter of words, it’s a matter of heart.
What your heart will become next, nobody can know.

Making lists helps defining how we work, it ignites into our brain a pattern to create a map, a defined map of what we are going to do and how we are going to do it.

Let’s take a degree thesis for example.
When you are preparing your thesis you are usually out of ideas, but to me the best advice I’ve ever received on that was “Do the index first”.

I initially wondered, why prepare the index of the thesis beforehand?
It didn’t take long to realize that creating the index laid out all the work I would have done later on.
Thanks to that, writing the thesis was really easy because the most intimidating part was “What should I write?”

So, whenever I need to define what to do I usually write a list, my index, and then move on one step at a time, trying to not change the context.

I do it also in my work.
As a web developer it happens to build an application that’s more complex than usual.
When I need to do that sometimes I can’t visualize entirely the program, so I write small comments, defining what will be the steps, and then I work on the smallest part, building it until it is full fledged, tested, working.

I just love indexes.

When you miss a beat of any habit you slowly start losing it.
The only way to keep it stable is to acknowledge and share the failure and keep going l.

Yesterday, for example, I skipped a blog post.

You probably already know that emails are a way for other people to allocate your time (and if you don’t, learn it now).

The thing about emails and urgent emails is even more interesting.
Urgent, is something referred to a situation.
The email containing the “URGENT” element in the message usually answer the “what” question.

What is urgent?

Thing is… what’s really important is why, which is often forgot.

Why is it urgent?
Is it urgent because you will lose your job?
Is it urgent because you won’t get paid?
or because you forgot it to do it before?

Urgency is a very delicate matter, adding it requires exposing a lot of vulnerability and therefore it is a practice that’s ignored by many peopl.

Still, sharing the urgency could enlighten us in 2 ways

– by letting understand how much urgent it is (once we write it down we might realize it’s not that urgent).
– by empowering the people we are communicating to, allowing them to help us in the best possible way.

Share the joy as a way of life, don’t settle for a rule.

Joy is one of the most powerful elements in this world and is the result of feelings mixing into your mind and heart.

In today society we might want to hide joy because it makes us appear “different”, not in line with what we’ve showed until now to them.
But this, this way of expressing freely, is our most true reaction and behavior. Is something that could define us in the future if only we would allow it to do so.

Keeping away from the beauty of joy is pretending to ignore our best part, the vulnerable one and that is the worst thing we can do to ourselves.
The best, instead, is to keep sharing, to show hidden parts of our personality.
To show up and not be afraid.
To be honest and heartwarming.
To love deeply with no fears.
To take hard decisions because we want joy to be part of our world.