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There are so many things in life that can go wrong, and enough that will go wrong.

We can’t avoid them, we can’t foresee them, we can’t do anything about them except accepting them.

We might be angry because they happen, but in fact we might be even more surprised of what happens when we don’t get angry. 
We might lead the way., inspire, be an example to follow.

What is a urgent task? It’s a task that cannot be postponed, an action that requires your full attention right here right now. No delay allowed.

It’s something you must take care of now, not tomorrow, not in a five minutes. Now.

It might happen though that we think some tasks are urgent. 
Maybe ’cause our boss is pressing us, maybe ’cause a customer is pressing us, maybe because we lost track of where your project is going.

But there are not so many tasks that require that much attention.

In fact, urgency is often dictated by a misunderstanding, by some wrong priorities.
Almost anything can wait, can be postponed or planned later, we can almost always find a quick fix to manage the temporary waiting for a better solution.

Real urgent tasks are in fact very rare.

It’s easy to forget the thrill when you’re near the finishing line. That moment when you feel you have to do more, to improve, to make a change, to reach your new result.

But then it comes that time and you remember it.

The thrill.

The run.

The countdown.

One of the hardest thing when people ask your advice is to truly find a way to help them.

When someone comes to you and wants an advice more often than not they do this because they miss some pieces of the puzzle. They lack information or realization of that information, meaning they need to clear up their mind.

They have too much chaos and need to select which kind of information is good and which is useless.

One thing I love doing is asking question. This has some nice side effects. First of all, it doesn’t put me in the condition of “I know it all, you know nothing”. Which, by the way, it’s impossible. I don’t know a thing, let alone about other’s people problems.
Secondly, it allows the person asking for help to dig a little bit on their issues.

For example, a basic starting point is “What is the problem?”, which, by the way, seems like an harmless question, but in fact it’s always unanswered.

Why? Because the answer is rarely the real answer.
If the answer is “I’m depressed”, ok, we got it. But that is a consequence. Not the problem.

A good answer is “I’m depressed because I feel like my relationship is not working out the way it should”.
This is good also because it opens up another question. “How do you expect your relationship to be?”

And so on.
Maybe the questions will lead up to a clear path where my opinion isn’t needed, or maybe I’ll get a better understanding and have some ideas on how to help.
Whichever comes first, it’s a win-win.

I remembered of a dinner we went with my gf. It was couple of years ago and we met with this friend of us and another girl.

I am always the one that don’t remember events from the past, but in this special case I was the only one remembering it.

I wonder why they all forgot about it, how we end up deciding what goes into our long term memory and what doesnt.
But more than that: How many moments we lose because of this? How many events of our past are now vanished, disappeared from our history, only because we didn’t pay attention, we didn’t live the moment?

Too many.