Every time someone doesn’t behave in the way we expect, we feel a bit frustrated.

It’s as if we expect to be the one dictating the rule of the world, therefore when something doesn’t go that way, there must be an error somewhere.
But what error?
We are indeed free to choose, free to tell, free to share.

Having a different opinion, making a different choice shouldn’t be an error, yet it’s difficult to move this cultural behaviour outside this box.
Many people will expect that you behave under their rules, in their world.

That’s ok, there’s nothing wrong with them either.
But if they start telling you how you should change, be different, etc, remind yourself that you are what you decide.
Remind yourself that nobody in the world owns the right to know what’s ok in your life, many can guess, and some will also be right, but in the end you’re the one deciding which road to take.

It’s easy to expect others to change, much less easier to change ourselves.
Every time you expect another person to behave differently remember this question
“Would I do things differently just because someone is telling me to?”
If not, if the question doesn’t even cross your mind, then why bothering pretending the same thing to others?

Whenever in doubt on what to do, or when you’re stuck, list the options, every one.

Burn your mind with options.

If there’s a scary word, it should be impossible.

Impossible means that it cannot be achieved, that this world doesn’t allow that such thing to happen freely.
We are bound to rules.

It was a while that I read nevblog on how to make 1 Million dollars in 1 month.
It was fascinating.

At first I thought “How could be possible to do, from zero, 1 million dollars in a month?”
The comments of the post are really thoughtful and interesting, full of ideas. They show what can be done.

What will you do if your child has been kidnapped and the sum you have to give amounts to 1 Million?
That’s the question.
And the second question is: Will you achieve the impossible?

In your day-to-day life this thought might not even cross your mind, but given the extreme situation of the example, you might react in 2 ways

• get crazy in a second, thinking “there’s no way”
• asking “how can I make that dollars?”

If you fall into the second group of people, then something interesting happens.
You start thinking about how to do it, your mind will burn at the end, but you might also do what you thought was impossible.

There are people who make much more than 1 million in less time, so that isn’t impossible at all.
What feels impossible is that you cannot do it.
And sure it’s  difficult, but definitely not impossible.

Words have value, but what happens if you keep repeating the same words over and over again?

The value of the words decrease, their importance once high goes lower.

It’s as if words have a source of energy and power, but this power is finite, and it gets consumed every time you repeat them.

If you want to leave the value of your words intact use them once, use them wisely.

I was walking just right outside the beautiful Milan railway station where, at this hour of the day, a cold sunset was about to lie down in the city horizon.

At 5pm many young guys group together outside the station in the main “park” (it has no greens, hence the enclosure”) to train with a skateboard.

They are young and most of them are newbies in the field.

I kept watching them, day after day, until today I suddenly realized how stubborn, difficult, and exceptional training they did every single day.

When training to jump with a skateboard you fail, often, fast.

Unless you are gifted chances are the skateboard won’t rotate properly or you will fall down hitting the ground.

And they do. They crush on the ground, they fail to put the weight correctly causing the skateboard to not rotate properly.

But in an amusing way they continue training like it never happened.

The thing is… There are no intermediate steps, you fail or you succeed. And after this many failures they still continue to try no matter what.

I can relate to this. There are many times when you try try try and you fail the same way, but you have to continue and the reason is because you don’t know that you are progressing (and you are).

The only thing you can do is keep failing until you get to learn the right amount of weight you must out onto the skateboard.

Fail until every single action align in a perfectly orchestrated movement, and for the first time you succeed.

After that first success you will fail many times until those “configurations” are a mechanical part of you. You will continue until you can discern the reason of failure in a perfect way (“I putted less weight during the rotation”) and master the technique.

It’s easy to give up, but many times it’s only because we don’t see the progress.