“What if I’m going to fail?”
that is a thought that more often than not cross my mind.

It’s the fear of failure, the fear of not being good enough.

The more I thnk about it, the more I realize there’s not a way to fight this fear, it’s part of who we are.
Having this fear is what helps us questioning to learn, to move forward.

Would it be better if we didn’t fear a thing?
I don’t think so, think about not fearing death, you might jump off a train and just die.
But if you ask yourself “Is the right thing to do? What If I’m gonna die?” maybe you will face the consequences, and think of how to survive.
Maybe you’ll still jump off the train, but you will be prepared to land, or to cling onto something so you won’t die.
And maybe it will work.

Having fear is a litmus test for what you do in life.

Being generous will allow you to share gratitude, to get deeper emotions, to enlighten others.

You may think that keeping it for yourself might be the best thing to do but when you start so share just for the sake of it, and not for being recognized, something might shift.

You might get to connect to more people, to move the needle of your life.

People will be surprised and amazed by your generosity, and from there on they will start thinking about it, about how much worth was it.

And maybe they will start being more generous too, not as a sign of emulation but as of pure delightment.

You made them change in a beautiful way.
Smile.

We miss priorities by mixing them with distractions.
We might forget that what we care about was our first todo list, our first topic, the others.

It’s still there, our first goal, that’s why we have the option to remove distractions.

It’s hard to leave them, but once we realize how much time we lose every time we give attention to them, than it become clear.

I recently started listening to the Tim Ferris podcast, and in one of the episode the guest was the founder of WordPress/Automattic, Matt.

I started listening and the first thought that came to mind was “How slow does it talk?”

Matt talks slowly, he takes his time without adding “ehm, ahm”, etc.
A wonderful way to talk and value every single words without breaking the normal conversation flow.

For a 31 years old man, that’s something.

I came to believe we should pursue slowness and avoid F-words, or vulgarity in general.
Two years ago I wouldn’t have said the same thing, but know I’m very fond of this principle.

Removing vulgarity will allow you to give more value to your talk, giving it authority, power, energy.
Slowing your talk will also allow you to think (strange, right?), to choose words wisely, and to take better decisions.

Today while I was waiting for the train I ordered a croissant.

There were many of them,all beautiful.
I asked for one with apricot jam, and then when it arrived I noticed that it was different from the one in the most visible part.

It wasn’t fresh, just a frozen good for fast food.

Only in that moment I realized the difference between what you see and what you get.
In websites we strive to make this distinction as much little as possible. Doing our best to comply with our users expectations, because, you know, getting tricked sucks.

Marketing, in many places, is still defined by how good you show things of, despite the delusion you give to your client after the goods get delivered.