Author: Andrea Grassi

These days I was stressed (I think I’ve even wrote about it, dunno), and today I realized that I was way too stressed for nothing.
I remember the stoic way to “list out the possible outcome”, and in fact managing the outcome made me realize that even in the worst situation, there is lot you can do.

What I personally found to be difficult is how to handle people. I’d love to handle them in my style but I guess I’ll need to adapt and learn from it because each person requires a different style, a different tone.
I hope to get it right soon.

We jump to conclusions, don’t we?
We always think we know why people act that way, we think we can understand them.

I don’t like this behavior and the reason I don’t like it is because many times I’ve been on the other side of the fence: the misunderstood, the “you got me wrong”.

I’ve always hated when people thought I acted for a reason that was untrue.

But, honestly, I’ve been on both sides.
As per any human, I have prejudices even though I’d love to avoid them.
I highly respect myself and this produces and overconfidence that eventually becomes useless when confronting myself with others.

Still.. I can’t stop thinking about why don’t we think about the other side of the fence. Why we only think inside our mindset, as if the other people could be fully described by our thoughts.
Yes, our prejudices are based on true actions from the other person, but that doesn’t define them entirely yet we think it can.

Too often we tend to assume what are the other people moving thoughts that produce an action.
When in doubt, ask and trust.

Few days ago I wrote that we can’t please everyone.
That is right. But why?

The reason I think we can’t please everyone is because each one of us has a different set of priorities, requirements, values and goals.

This intricate mix produces the perception of the world through which the person evaluates the world. It’s almost like the definition of good and bad because, in fact, this set defines how we think and how we react.

Everyone has a different set, so everyone has different priorities that make things more or less important.
They have different requirements for what should happen or how we should handle a situation, they have different values to define what does really matter and ultimately they have different goals they need to achieve.

If any of these fail to be acknowledged or satisfied, than it’s quite possible to be in front of a person who can’t be pleased.
It’s not anyone’s fault, because that difference is also what makes us unique.