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Today a famous social media girl posted a photo where she showed her “curves” with the attached message of “you don’t need to be a top girl”.

Few days ago a famous female singer did the same.

Aside from the fact that both the aforementioned girls were in perfect body condition with no evidence of them being overweight (they might not be a perfect 90-60-90, but they are nowhere imperfect as we would expect from someone fat), the thing that made me thinking was the first comment below the photo.

It was of a woman who said that we’re still talking about beauty, instead of focusing on other qualities.
And she was damn right.

How can we expect to change our expectations about beauty and its importance if beauty is always on our mind? If we still talk about the many body differences, we’re still talking about beauty, aesthetics and so on.
We’re not done, we’re not over it.

Why don’t we talk about curiosity, empathy, intelligence?
Those are elements we should also talk about, but beauty seems to come first.
And it is first because, after all, it matters to many of the people in the world.

We care because beauty seems related to love, success, passion, sex.
And how can we exclude it from our mind if its so deeply connected with what our current life is about?

You rarely see a tv show with ugly people in it. There might be overweight people, but they’re still beautiful, maybe not super-hot, but you know they’re good.
It’s hard, I know, but it’s the same as saying to your children “you are so beautiful”.

By saying that you’re implicitly teaching the importance of being beautiful and the bliss that might come from it.
And so beauty becomes an element of value and comparison, the main one.

Because many parents will say it again and again, day after day, forgetting that if they do like this they are modeling their child towards a beauty-first attitude.
He/She might not learn the value and importance of all the other skillset that she/he has.

And the worst thing might come if she/he is actually beautiful, because then it would be normal to follow the path that’s been already drawn for you, the road is so easy, so clear, so simple, why wouldn’t anyone follow it?

There are many ways to fight. You might fight to win, to achieve something.

Or you might fight to discuss a different point of view.

If you’re not fighting for the sake of it, then it could also be possible for you to change your opinion, and the wonderful thing of this is that, well, fighting is a quite constructive thing to do.

It helps you grow if you know how to handle it correctly.
Fighting (in a verbal sense) is a nice way to discuss things.

And even if some times the tension is real, it’s important to keep in mind the reason you’re fighting and what you’re fighting for.
To compromise, to understand, to learn.

If that’s not your goal, you’re fighting only to be right, and that will ultimately lead to failure.

Always keep doing the best, because the best is what will make the difference in life.

Be kind, to a stranger or even to yourself.
The greatest good you can do is to smile in an unlucky situation.
To face the bad with a nice smile upon it.

Smile for the people who suffer, smile for the person in front of you who hates his/her job, smile for the friend who can’t make it anymore.

Smile for them, because they might not have this strength, this power, and you do.
Now, you can make a little change, a difference in the world and smile is part of this revolution.

The kind revolution, the revolution that begins with kindness and ends with kindness, because once we add kindness to the recipe everything feels better.

Try to postpone more. Not all the things are required right now.

Smartphones, watches and so on have taught us the importance of being on time, but long before that it wasn’t a problem.

You can still live your life with such different peace.