Thoughts about changing, life, and whatever comes to mind.
We’re all following the big bandwagon about mental performance, focus, and whatever.
We drink new supplements, we add food to our diet, we change our behaviour.
Yet we forget the simplest rule of all: Sleep.
Sleeping is often key to have a perfect mental performance.
It’s not idleness, it’s not wasted time.
It’s recharging your body.
I am a blood donor and few days ago I went to donate some blood. Each time you go there they ask you a round of questions like
What I realized is that this list is a list of all the things that could poison your blood, but more than this it’s a list of all the bad things you are better aware about.
You can’t be naive about these issues, you have to know them so you can act accordingly. And It’s clear that for a young guy it’s hard to be aligned with theses values. When we’re young we want to be reckless, to try new things. But it’s only when you grow that you start liking the safe side of life.
The side where you’re aware of what you do, the consequences, and you choose a clear path.
You’re in a car, a man steals your parking place you were eying right now.
You’re angry, you shout the worst words to him when you’re in the car.
This effect is the same you can see on Facebook and it’s caused by the fact that we feel protected by the distance, by the anonymity of the message.
It happens also in a more subtle way when people complain. If they’re not complaining directly to the interested person, they will add more words to the recipe. They will probably use meaner words, harsh terms and so on.
Why? They feel protected. They feel safe. The risk is low.
The only solution I can think of is the same: stop complaining.
Stopping the complaint doesn’t mean you have to agree on everything. It means that you must correctly direct the issue to the interested person.
Not friends, not Facebook, not a shout in the car but the exact person that generated the problem. Talk to them, see if you can sort it out.
One thing that talking makes possible is understanding the reasons, because as humans, we do things for a reason. So when we talk it might even happen that we discover a reason behind the action that will make it plausible if not more human.
Crazy right?
We all want some kind of strength. Something that will make us superior to the obstacles in our race.
Strength as we know it is often mentally linked with the idea that, whatever the obstacle, you can destroy it.
I think there’s a more subtle strength that it’s not shown on self-help books. A subtle and silent strength.
The strength to continue without bragging, the strength of supporting silently someone without trying to be a dead-weight for them.
A strength that will not get any plause nor attention, but that will be nonetheless essential in this world.
I was at a wedding today and one word stuck within me. The preacher was talking about the problems you face as a couple and how they won’t be easy.
We will all face problems, he said, but we must find the power to overcome them.
And this word, overcoming, was the one.
Because to me each problem is something to fix, but fixes implies a correction, implies that there could be a change of course, that the situation you’re in can evolve.
This, sadly, doesn’t always happen. That’a why the word overcome seems so powerful to me, because it means that a problem to be “solved” doesn’t necessarily require fixing something.
Come on, give me the chills 