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When you’re trying something new, a new habit, a new style. It’s quite common to fall back into your normal routine. To lean back into what you’re used to, instead of what you’re trying.

And it feels good. It feels like that should be the way life was intended. More safe, relaxing, and predictable.
But that’s not why we try new things.
Trying new things also means trying to expand that zone of comfort, to include new horizons, new ideas. To let other parts of this world feel like home.
In the beginning, though, they will feel alien to us. That’s why resorting to our usual routine feels so good, and that’s also why whenever we notice that we are going back instead of forward, we should stop, take a breath, and try again.

Meditating every day is a constant struggle, a fight for the attention. It’s like failing each and every single day at a seemingly basic goal: staying focused on your breath.

It kinda reminds me of jumping rope, where when you start learning, you often get the tempo wrong and you need to start again.
Meditating, to me, is like this. I continue failing, but for the few seconds or moments that I can focus that experience is worth it.

Those seconds are what make it worthwhile. Even more so if you consider how many changes you have in your daily life.
But, on the other hand, learning how to not get frustrated with these failures is not easy and you always have the tendency to give up, to say “why am I doing this?” to just surrender to the impossible task.

But it’s not impossible. As with any skill, as with any learning, you get to the end step by step. One single step at a time.

It’s curious how we move back and forth in our lives. Yesterday, after spending part of my life going more digital in books (ebooks, audiobooks, etc), I realized how powerful reading on a physical book is.

I realized I need a moment when I’m not “Connected” to any device, when my brain can relax and detach.

What’s even more interesting is that this detachment makes me more productive and focused.
So please, if you’re like me, try physical books again, give them a try and enjoy the ride once more.

I stopped journaling my days many years ago, but I recently got back into the habit. Each day, at the end of the day, I get a small reminder to write down what happened, to post a photo or two.

Not every day is special. Some days are just “normal”. Packed with that usual flavor of life that you miss once it disappears.

The beauty of journaling is not in the journal itself. It’s in living those memories back again, it’s remembering the small details.
If you look at it this way, journaling is not a way to save the big moments in your memory, but to protect the small moments that would otherwise be lost in the stream of your life.

I recently listened to a Huberman podcast on ADHD and what was most interesting to me was a digression he made on our vision and how we look at things.

Turns out, we can have a tunnel vision, where we are focusing on a specific area of what we see, and a wider vision, where we let all the information our eyes see from the outside.

What’s even more interesting is that those have different effects on how you feel, and to me, those effects are extremely evident.

I realized, for example, that while driving, I always use tunnel vision, focusing only on the street. The same goes for many other parts of my life.
Well, what happens if I try to use the wider vision?

I tried it, trying to have me eyes get all the view that unfolded before them, all the details and so on. This didn’t require any complicated work, it was just trying to “see” everything in front of me, without worrying about the details, instead of focusing on a specific narrow point.

Everything is more… relaxed? It feels like I’m more connected to the world and more alive. I’m less distractable, and I’m more present in the moment.

Which, to me, is extremely surprising.
If you’ve never tried, please do.