what if I’m going to fail?

“What if I’m going to fail?”
that is a thought that more often than not cross my mind.

It’s the fear of failure, the fear of not being good enough.

The more I thnk about it, the more I realize there’s not a way to fight this fear, it’s part of who we are.
Having this fear is what helps us questioning to learn, to move forward.

Would it be better if we didn’t fear a thing?
I don’t think so, think about not fearing death, you might jump off a train and just die.
But if you ask yourself “Is the right thing to do? What If I’m gonna die?” maybe you will face the consequences, and think of how to survive.
Maybe you’ll still jump off the train, but you will be prepared to land, or to cling onto something so you won’t die.
And maybe it will work.

Having fear is a litmus test for what you do in life.

being generous is good

Being generous will allow you to share gratitude, to get deeper emotions, to enlighten others.

You may think that keeping it for yourself might be the best thing to do but when you start so share just for the sake of it, and not for being recognized, something might shift.

You might get to connect to more people, to move the needle of your life.

People will be surprised and amazed by your generosity, and from there on they will start thinking about it, about how much worth was it.

And maybe they will start being more generous too, not as a sign of emulation but as of pure delightment.

You made them change in a beautiful way.
Smile.

get your priorities right

We miss priorities by mixing them with distractions.
We might forget that what we care about was our first todo list, our first topic, the others.

It’s still there, our first goal, that’s why we have the option to remove distractions.

It’s hard to leave them, but once we realize how much time we lose every time we give attention to them, than it become clear.

 

 

being slow

I recently started listening to the Tim Ferris podcast, and in one of the episode the guest was the founder of WordPress/Automattic, Matt.

I started listening and the first thought that came to mind was “How slow does it talk?”

Matt talks slowly, he takes his time without adding “ehm, ahm”, etc.
A wonderful way to talk and value every single words without breaking the normal conversation flow.

For a 31 years old man, that’s something.

I came to believe we should pursue slowness and avoid F-words, or vulgarity in general.
Two years ago I wouldn’t have said the same thing, but know I’m very fond of this principle.

Removing vulgarity will allow you to give more value to your talk, giving it authority, power, energy.
Slowing your talk will also allow you to think (strange, right?), to choose words wisely, and to take better decisions.

presenting information in the right way

Today while I was waiting for the train I ordered a croissant.

There were many of them,all beautiful.
I asked for one with apricot jam, and then when it arrived I noticed that it was different from the one in the most visible part.

It wasn’t fresh, just a frozen good for fast food.

Only in that moment I realized the difference between what you see and what you get.
In websites we strive to make this distinction as much little as possible. Doing our best to comply with our users expectations, because, you know, getting tricked sucks.

Marketing, in many places, is still defined by how good you show things of, despite the delusion you give to your client after the goods get delivered.

let the sunshine in

It’s a sunny day here in Italy, and we hang out after lunch in the sunlight.
After a cold winter today it’s almost a hot day, and staying outside is nice, really nice.

I often forget how much pleasure you can get from just staying in the light of the sun.
It’s not just about relaxing, it’s about enjoying the beauty of the world, being part of it, letting the light come in.

would you extend your life?

Today we were talking about Elysium Health, a new product that should slow down the aging process of humans.

They are just pills, and they say the project is backed by nobel prize winners.

Life is a curious topic, I am now reading Seneca “On the shortness of life” and talking about life, aging process, is sure curious.
Is life worth extending?

A friend of mine would absolutely pay to extend his current life, meaning the quality of his mind and body together.
He said that, if he could gain 10 more years of this life, he would pay instantly.

That is probably not possible today, but the dilemma remains: Would you extend your life?

It’s not just a matter of paying for it. We are already paying for a lot of things, so paying for one more, even if it is for life, shouldn’t raise much concern.
In this situation I think it’s worth considering the generic question of extending life .

Many (or all) would just say yes, why not?
I would have probably said the same some years ago.

But I can’t help thinking about the Seneca book.
It’s not about the quality of life, it’s about living fully every single day.

He, who lives every day at the fullest, can die tomorrow with no regrets, because he know he lived the life fully.

To me Seneca is right, it’s not about extending life, it’s about extending our mindfulness in everyday life.
It’s about taking chances, making time for the loved ones, every single day.

stand up and nourish your life

Standing up for yourself as a way to cultivate yourself is not very in the news right now.
We are more attracted to standing up for other people rights or standing up to build credibility or have some deserved attention.
The latter things, the one focused on yourself, are more often then not the results of the need to be seen, to show up.

It’s normal, we all have that. But what would happen if we nourished our lives?
Nourishing them as a way to cultivate what’s good and beautiful, to grow our compassion, our empathy, to deepen the relationships we have, to ensure we smile and have no regrets.
I’m not talking about social status, work, etc.
I’m talking about the inner part of yourself, the purest one. The one that doesn’t feel the need to achieve but the need to share and help.

It’s uncommon, but it’s worth it.

accountability and the exposure of dreams

I always wonder what it takes to be accountable, to make it till the end, to reach your goals.

I think that one of the best way to ensure this is to expose our will to others.
Expose them to our dreams, the real one, not the faraway dreams you won’t do, but the ones you are committed to.

This way you create an informational gap between you and other people so that they will expect some action from you.

The best way to do it is sharing it online, let it be on a blog post or on a Facebook status and then share it with the people you trust.

It might be frightening but that fear will keep you accountable

%d bloggers like this: