you don’t need to say that you’re great


In the past I was sure that reinforce the value that we feel we have was a good idea.
Writing that we are good, that I am so good doing this or that, bla bla bla, could improve your self-esteem.

That’s right, and it’s usually well-documentent. You can find plenty of books that will give you this advice, like tricking your mind that you’re worth it.
And they work.

Right now, though, I don’t feel like they are a solution to the problem, or at least the countereffects might just grey-out all the benefits.

The main issue I have discovered with this approach is that the reinforcement doesn’t happen to let you grow in some cases.
In some cases you continue to trick yourself and this habit is not intended.
The trick yourself moment should disappear while letting a more honest impression of yourself outgrow it.

The thing is: when you truly go beyond this you don’t care and this is not something you can learn from the trick-yourself attitude.

Tricking yourself into giving you a higher value will always revolve around yourself, your ego, your personality.
While this is great, and effective, in the short term it’s not the same in the long term.

How this will work out in the long term depends on your character, on your unexpected life events and so on.
So, if I were to give myself an advice on learning how to improve self-esteem, trust in myself, and learn more, it would be:

_I thought it was important to value myself, but now I don’t care, and it’s way better. Choose to be yourself honestly, live through your value and respect them no matter what._
_This will make the difference in your life_

That’s it.
I now realize it’s not important to reinforce yourself. It might be needed, but it’s much more worth it to live through values, through ideals and through honesty.
If we are guided by great ideals, our value is untouched as long as we are true to ourselves.


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