Author: Andrea Grassi

Some of our friends are marrying and it’s quite natura to think about how much money goes into a wedding.

It’s a lot and it makes me think about it.
Is that money something I would like to spend in case of my wedding?
That’s obviously not my choice alone, but I got to ask myself if this complies with the way I see and live the world.

To me, at least today, too much money goes into a wedding.
I think that anyone who can spend so much should do it if he/she cares, but to me that’s out of question. I would very much prefer a hug than having a nice suit that I’ll use one day in my life.

And the thing is: A wedding cost as much as you want it to price it high.
There’s no upper limit, but you are able (if you want) to strongly constraint it to a lower limit so that it doesn’t drain too much.

Many of the things today are like weddings.
They can be pricey, but it’s up to you to decide how much to pay.

To craft perfection (even though perfection doesn’t exist) you have to iterate under the right conditions.
Don’t rush it, because rushing it will only show you the limit of taking things to fast.

When you got time and mind, then you got a good solution.

We often say that it’s not imaginable how come that people could bomb themselves in the name of god, but is that hard?

We think of it as an action without any solid ground, that no one with a little bit of rationality would consider, least think about it as a solution.

Because anyone that’s rational knows that’s wrong.
Right?

Now, think about the last time you were angry with someone.
Think about the last time you wanted to be right in a discussion so badly you raised your voice unconsciously.

The sad thing is that we often follow our irrationality without even thinking.
We do it daily.
We fight, we give punches, we scream, we hate.
All the time, every damn day.

Out of context, out of the stream of emotions that’s quite clear that rationally we wouldn’t do it, but we still did them.
It’s like in the walking dead where they are all infected, but they don’t know it.
We all have this seed of crazyness.
It’s up to us to not follow it.

I say this as a man: the world has a too widespread “man-view”.
Few days ago I was eating with my colleagues and I realized that many of the jokes made by men were all sexual.

I’m not talking about sexual harassment, I’m just saying that they revolved around the common theme of sex.
Some of the jokes were about the girls, but aside from that, they were all about sex.

It’s easy to joke on sex, because you can find a double meaning in everything.
But is that a topic we can use to elevate ourselves?

I think the answer is no.
To improve the way we live and act in this world we need to change the way we talk and joke.
Everything nowadays is about sex.
Tv shows, movies, etc.

Sex is an easy door to attention, smile, whatever.
It’s easy because it resonate with a primal part of us and it appeals us because anything erotic appeals, isn’t it?

It’s too easy to fall into this trap.

I’m not saying that sex is bad, but the way it is used, yes, that is bad.
The overflow of sex-related information is bad.
It is bad for us because it forces us to stay within the “sex-loop”, to think about it, joke about it, talk about it while we could think/joke and talk about so many different things.

But as with many things in life, this is not easy and it requires you to have both a strong commitment, a strong will, and an open mind.
An open mind is crucial because it would be too easy to fall into the trap of sex denial. No, I’m not talking about removing sex.
I’m talking about making sex that intimate private moment we rarely share, making it beautiful, exciting, and not “common” again.