Author: Andrea Grassi

Every now and then I write a good birthday note.
I usually ship it through sms, but the point of it is that lately I’ve realized we let too many of our feelings hidden and I guess there’s no reason for doing that.

Therefore from time to time I write this to people, people that I care of.
I write them to show their love, their feelings to anyone dear. To not let those feelings misunderstood.
We don’t get enough time on this single life and it might be as well our last day.

Relationships build upon this foundation of feelings, and if you assume that the other people is understanding your feeling correctly you might get it wrong.
Better to clear that up, better to be transparent, better to hug, love, smile, to share the beauty others took into our life.

There are so many people we care about, why should we assume they know we love them?
Show them, every moment you can, show the full range of your emotions and care for them.
They should be aware, you should be aware of this.

When you find things that are so good, that the experience is unforgettable.

When you fell like sharing with the world your new finding, when you are so delighted by the customer experience or the craftsmanship.

That is the moment you have undeniable quality.
This kind of quality is the one that last, that improves the life of people.
It’s kinda like magic in the sense that it makes you wonder, it surprise you because you “hadn’t think of that”.

It’s the simplicity of quality itself, and it’s beautiful.

Sometimes you just don’t know what do to, in which order.

It’s all a matter of priorities, what comes before and what comes next.
But priorities change, even though nothing happens.
They changes because once you delay them, they gain priority, and so their power grows until they equal the other ones.

I guess it’s all a matter of accepting chaos.

Today my parents discovered that someone entered their house and rob them of some valuables.

It’s sad, deeply sad. It makes fear grow into your mind, asking question like “am I safe?”
No one is safe after all, looking at the Tianjin explosion and the crater it left, the answer is even more obvious.

We live in an unsafe world, built upon safe foundations.
It has always been like this, maybe we’re not realizing it, but many things have shifted and we should feel lucky to be worried about robbing, and not life itself.

In many places in the world, right now, many people are fighting for their lives, and we the “civilized world” worries about robbing.

This is not to say that robbing is something we shouldn’t care of, it’s a serious problem and we must take it into consideration and at the same time compare it to the rest of the world.

Aside from this, what solutions do we have?
To live a replicable life, to build assets that can sustain us in case of failure so that, although robbing is a sad thing, we won’t lose our smile.

A friend of mine told me to don’t quit, some weeks ago.
Only now I realized that I was so eager to change plans, to adapt to the new world, to be sure to not fail.

Without listening to my intuition.

If I saw something, it was because of my intuition, if I reached my goals, it was because of intuition, skill and perseverance.
I don’t know if this thing about quitting is partly caused by my work.
As a web developer I am used to find the bug, fix it so I’m naturally inclined to think fast about fixing things.

But then again, the thought at the beginning stroke a chord within me.
“to be sure to not fail“.
That’s why we quit.

We quit because we fear failure so much we’d gladly avoid it. I’m no exception in this.
Yes, my work might have guided me towards fixing but the fear is still there.
We don’t want to fail, to be saw as failure, humans that can’t accomplish, but in the real life it’s also thanks to failure that we, as humans, grew and learned.

That failure let us understand what would happen if we took a route instead of another.
And the worst thing is… failure comes in the same journey as success.

If you quit you give up on failure, but also on success.