Author: Andrea Grassi

Have you ever found yourself in the middle of a harsh argument with a friend?

How did you feel? Did you get that drain of energy once it was over? or did you continue thinking about it if you paused it for a second?

I think about arguing, a lot.
I mean… we as human tend to argue and the reason behind this for some people is that we just want to prove our point.
Why we feel this need is often a mystery, respect, honor, power, whatever. Doesn’t really matter since the consequences of this are much worse than the act itself.

While you argue you feel powerful. Energy is flowing into your body, you wake up if you were sleepy and you start debating with an enormous energy.

Once the argument is over, much like an orgasm for  a man, you are drained of all that energy, you feel exhausted.

That energy, that time, where did it go?
Did we used it for a greater good? Or was it just some selfish need?

I, sadly, think we mostly follow selfish needs in this case.
That’s why every moment you spend arguing it will rob your life forever.

I don’t have a solution to this, aside from advising to be more modest, more timid, more human.
To respect other views and accept that people have different opinions.
And accept that, for some unknown reasons, we might be wrong even though we are absolutely sure we are right, and that the path to discovering this is much worse than accepting a dissenting opinion.

Starting from zero takes some courage.

You need to redo the basics, to learn the fundamentals and be human again.
You have to accept that you’ll be the last, that the road is long, that you still have to learn.

Starting from zero doesn’t require knowledge, everyone at any point in their life can do it, but not many people choose this task because it’s so frightening.

We love feeling safe, and the idea that we might get what we really want scares us because we might totally fail.
But maybe it’s worth the try.

I am always stuck with this question.

The answer is quite obvious: Our time should be more precious, mostly because it’s our life that we are talking about.

But I can’t stop thinking that we should respect other people’s time more.
Take this example: You’re commuting to work, but there’s a long queue.
Up ahead, in front of the queue there’s a worker guiding a small truck, going slowly because the truck itself is not allowed to go faster.

He is doing his job, he’s not doing any harm (aside from making you late), and lastly: he’s obeying the rules.

Everything is perfect aside from the fact that you are waiting for him and you can’t surpass it because it would be too risky.

It would probably take him less than 1 minute to move aside and flush the queue but it won’t be the case.

Asking again the first question about which time should be respected, does the answer comes so easily now?
I guess not.

Should the worker stop or should he put his work first? I would say his work, but when you’re in the queue (like I was) you wonder
If it does take so little so simplify other people lives why wouldn’t he do it?

I guess it all comes down to the same question and the same answer.

Also, it’s all about balancing, there’s no easy way or perfect solution.
You can’t define life, but you can help other people and be a bit more empathic with their life.

Sometimes all you need to kick off a project is the least.
A small change in your routine.

It might be just the device’s fault. You might be using an old pc and since it’s so old and slow you might delay what you have been planning.

It takes guts to recognize that.
Luckly we can fix it.

With a bit of thinking and self-thought you can discover what’s the hole in your life, the paralyzing venom.
To do that accept the fact that there will be holes in your life, and some of them can be quite fixable.

Arrange time, space and services to help you out.

Time

Make time for your goals, start small, increase every day without filling your life

Space

Choose a place, make it the place where you’ll create/work/whatsoever.

Services

Need a pc? Buy it.

Need a new modem? Buy it.

Whatever you need, make it sure you have it.
If it does costs too much, scale down, replace it and schedule the money so one day you’ll buy it.

Then start.

If you improve 1% every day, you can get well over 100% in a year.

Even if that percentage will fail and vary, chances are it will work.

Worth a try, isn’t it?