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Today a new article appeared, it talked about how we should all aim to have a part time job so that we can enjoy life.

It’s nice, I totally agree with this needing, and I personally believe that it’s the right thing to do.

The thing is… all revolves around a question: How much is worth your time?

Usually the answer includes money, like 100$, 50$/hour, etc.
That is the problem.

Your time is not a mean for money although in reality it is.
Yes, your skill and your time are both part of how you pay your bills, but in the end your time is much more valuable than money.
You experiences are much more worth it and can’t be classified in a numeric scale of money.

The emotions can’t be truly translated into money.
How much love is worth? No, we can’t answer this, and in the same way we can’t truly say how much our time is worth.
The answer is always “infinite”.

Our time is something that only goes forward, meaning that if you spend it in something you don’t acquire, then your time is lost.
Emotions build up, skills build up, the repetitive 9 to 5 job? Doesn’t really build up unless you let it build.

Your family will be your most precious time.
Almost any father in the world sooner or later realized that he should spend more time with his children.
Did we learn something? No.
We still struggle, both employees and employers still struggle to identify that happiness isn’t the amount of money you have in your bank account.
And while it is true that poverty won’t make you happier, the opposite is not so clear, and it’s not about the money.

It’s not about money or not. It’s about time or not.
If you have the money but you sacrifice 100% of your time for it, you have failed.
You have failed to experience this beautiful world as a whole, you failed to connect to your siblings, you failed to make time for a friend to talk with you.

When we talk about freedom, we talk about money.
We should also talk about priorities and will.
What is your priority? As a social being we are used to go out at night, drink at bars, spending that money.
But will that money lead you to an experience you will undoubtedly remember? An experience that will be carved into your memories?

Not always.
So the question is not if you want to have more time for  you. We all want that.
The question is: are you willing to do it?

Closing line: Yoda said “Do or do not, there is no try”.

We are here to experience the world, to amaze and be amazed, to chase our goals and dreams.

We are here to make a difference, leave a sign of our passage, spread the love we feel and let the love outgrow us.
We are here to not be controlled by our ego but to move towards our greater self, our best design.

We are here to trust in others and to feel insecure, to share our deepest vulnerability, to allow people to see our weak side with no fear or worry.
We are here to be the normal people in the world who will still make a difference, but we are not here to be heroes, not the ones Marvel draw to entertain us.
We are the fathers and the sisters that magazine don’t talk about because we do what we must do, because we know it.

We are here to be here, to live this moment 100% and not regret it in a second or two, nor for a day.

We are here to dream, cry, love, die throughout the stream of live.

We are here to smile, we are after happiness, yet we are the one producing it.

Things will go wrong, but don’t ever forget the amazing times when everyone was there to support you.

They believed in you, and so should you.

I remember talking with a dear friend about how we should approach “saying something that arise various complex implications” to someone.

It’s not easy, it’s even more difficult when the stakes are high and it’s not an uncommon situation.

To be honest, I don’t think we can find a true solution, a 1 click shortcut, but there are lots of things we can do to improve how we say things to people.
2 Books really helped me going through this topic, one is “Difficult conversation”, which is a really great book about this type of discussions, and the other one (audio) is the power of vulnerability by Brenè Brown.

Both books teach you something meaningful about interacting with other people, and what I’ve learned from them is that we must share as much as possible and be open and honest.

By sharing as much as possible I mean sharing our pains, our fears, our problem.
When we say something, when we ask something, we always do it for a reason.
Going to someone and asking without explaining that reason is selfish. Why would anyone give their precious time and effort towards something they don’t know?

Even though you’re friends, you should share, because it’s not that uncommon to ignore this advice just because we’re friends, but ignoring it will eventually lead to the same problems.

The other advice is to be open and honest, to not fake the situation if it’s hard, to not make things seem easy.

Thinking about it, there’s also another book that influenced me how I approach this kind of issues and it’s “How to win friends and influence people”.
Many things in this book might seem manipulative (and some of them are), but I like to think that it’s how you use them that make the difference.

One thing this book taught me was to allow others to take the decision.
We are used to be the one in control, but what if you allow the other part to decide, by putting them into the right mindset?

You should also be able to accept any results if it doesn’t go as planned, but I personally found out that if you honestly open yourself to others and show them what you care about and what they care about and let them decide it’s amazing how things go.

It kinda reminds me of one post about removing the ego, and it sounds exactly like this.
Removing the ego allows you to remove many needs, like the need to be right.