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Thoughts about changing, life, and whatever comes to mind.

Category: Blog

  • fighting, hating, and the energy you lose

    We all need energy, to move, to talk, to sleep.

    We need it to ensure that our relationship are healthy, and although we know this, we tend to dissipate our energy from time to time.
    How?
    Hating, fighting, etc.

    Every time you hate or start a harsh discussion, you  lose energy, you lose control, you lose some good part of you.
    This energy won’t come back to you instantly, but after hours or days or even weeks depending on how big was the discussion.

    Try it, or just remember the last time you were hating.

    We are tricked into this game.
    We think it’s our right to protect what we think.
    What we don’t think about is that we can express in other ways, using other words, for example.

    We think that we are right.
    What we don’t think about is that we might just be wrong.

    We think it’s good, because sometimes you have to shake the foundation.
    What we don’t think about is that, aside from bringing a negative emotion into other beings, that negative emotion starts being “normal” in our mind.
    There are no controlled negative emotions, but your body and mind can start considering them “normal”, and therefore the more time it passes, the more difficult unwinding will be.

    We think many things, I surely do.
    Now, more than ever, I got to the point where I’m sure about one thing:
    Negative emotions, expressions, reaction, are not an healthy thing and shouldn’t ever be considered good or even needed.

    They are bad, as bad as their name.
    They are viral.
    They are contagious and we still don’t have a 100% working cure.

    We should share the love, try to learn and listen from others, try to understand other’s point of view, try to be compassionate.
    We should change the world with our smile, not with our rage, engaging with our friend and the people we meet every day with a deep desire to understand, to not let it out any bad emotion.

    Not by controlling the good emotion, but by cultivating them, by threat them as special beings that could die anytime.
    We shall be understanding and open, we shall be more human than this.

  • streaks and this blog

    This blog started on december 28, 2014, mostly because I wanted to setup a new habit and because I wanted to improve my english writing.

    It all started with the book “What to do when it’s your turn” by Seth Godin, and it started because there were many things to say.

    Sometimes they were useless, sometimes they were complex thoughts that were staying in my head with no reason.
    This blog is not a place where everything is interesting, but it’s a place where I want to continue my streak in writing.

    It has been a while since I truly kept up with the streak. Many days are missing and I can see them from the monthly post count.
    And the thing about streaks is that usually there isn’t a good reason for interrupting them.
    You always do it for laziness, not for other important topics.

    So I want to get back on track and continue pushing this blog forward, keeping my mind on and my words flowing.
    Some of the thoughts are written here were unknown even to me, I couldn’t expect their birth, let alone writing them, this is why this streak is so important: it has helped me grow.

    If you ever struggle improving a language, or putting down on paper what you think, starting a daily blog is one of the best thing you could do.

  • the challenge will come, if you ask for it

    Life can be easy.
    But if you deeply care about improving, learning, going forward, then you’ll somewhat want ad uneasy life.

    Not a threatening one. Not necessarily a difficult one, but a challenging life for sure.
    All the challenges are difficult by nature, they will do their best to change you for the worst, to make you regret your choice.

    You will stumble into walls, bad paths, wrong choices.
    But at the end of the road you’ll always get what you wanted: you’ll learn something.

  • beauty is in the little things

    One day you’ll figure it out all, you’ll know what causes life, what destroys it.
    One day, everything will be clear and all the question will be answered.

    Until that day, I hope you’ll start seeing the beauty of life in a small, a helping hand, a compassionate friend, a good deed or just the time you spend with your family.

    I hope you won’t see the world as a superhero does, full of big actions and great powers and results.
    I hope you’ll notice the beauty in the small things the ones we are already submerged into, the one we live in.
    The beauty of life.

  • the dirty secret to laziness

    There is no person around the world that isn’t lazy.
    We all are, maybe on different degrees and topics, but we all are.

    So, what’s the matter with being lazy? In fact, not so much.
    Being lazy isn’t a problem by per se, it’s a problem when it affects your life and when it doesn’t help you living a richer life.

    I suspect there are not so many other rules to this game.
    Being lazy can be good if it means to nurture yourself for a while.
    It isn’t so good when you do it everyday to avoid decision, to avoid change, to avoid improving.

    The next time you see a super-active person doing so many things remember this: we are all lazy.
    You might not know where that person is lazy, but he or she is and the issue in that case is that you somewhat feel inferior because he/her can accomplish so much and you don’t because you’re lazy.

    Sadly, laziness isn’t the problem.