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You might be fooled into thinking you are the captain of a boat. 

That you have the power to decide what to do. That you are the only one that knows best what to do.

This will tear you down once you’ll see how easily each and every position can be dismantled, taken over by anyone with higher hierarchy, power, or intentions than you.

You can earn more, be more powerful, but rarely you’ll be in the highest level of command. 

The true power, the one and only.place where no one can give you orders.
The sad news is that there is no such thing and all we can do is to do our best work in our way.

“Wait, should I surrender then?” Of course not. But you can’t fight all the battle nor they are useful to you. It might be better then to “Lose” by giving some freedom to the rest of the world. “Letting them do their work, in their vision”: Allowing them to express fully their point of view which we might not understand nor agree with.

Could it lead to a worse outcome than our idea? Yes. But what’s at stake?

When you fight for a privilege, for a position of power, you’re not simply fighting. You’re not simply using your time during the fight.

Your mind will go back and forth in the events during all day and night. Your emotional status will change and will deplenish your mood. 
Your energy will be sucked in by a black hole of bad intentions, only for a single gain, a greed of power, your struggle to success.

So, would it be worth it? What will change in your life if you win, and how much of your life would you lose for it? Think about you craving the next fight, you shouting at your spouse, you wandering while eating with your friends.

Life will pass by while planning how to win, or regretting the lost battle.

It’s easy to misread success.
It’s not always what you gain.
It’s what you get to protect and keep.

You’ll always get the chance to learn something difficult.

It’s fine. Take your time. Some things have a much steep learning curve.

You’ll be good in some, bad in other, but as long as you keep trying, you’ll learn.

You don’t need to be a genius to create things. You need to put some heart into things. Love them. Be focused as if you’re caring for the most precious gift.

That is creativity. The ability to enjoy every single shadow of black, every glimpse of light, every smile, every word.

No two things will be alike in your mind, no similarities, because when creativity strikes you can see the subtle differences in each nuance, even though before they all looked the same.

We’re obsessed by having more, owning more. Our cars, the number of the shirts in the closet, our shoes, the food we buy and then we throw away.

We accumulate products of any kind. Some of them will stay hidden in our homes for years befone getting thrown out (not even donated), others go into the trash can when they rot.

We’ve been taught this way. That we should have more, partly because of the though “If people see how poor your are, they’ll judge you”. So owning things is a status, and not owing them means you’re poor.

So we work more to buy more stuff we won’t use as much, owning things only to make a great impression to people and not because they enrich us thanks to their style or how they make us feel.

We work more, we stress more, we do more to have more. Again and again.

But what would happen if all of a sudden we realize that this fake-rich status isn’t what we really want? What would society be if we’d let go of the need for such low value status and go towards a more human, intimate judgement of how we are and which kind of value we take into the world?

Maybe we could all work less, have less, and still be happy.

Maybe we’ll be less stressed, need less clothes, waste less food and still have plenty of time, friends, relationships.
Hell yes, maybe we’ll even deepen our relationships thanks to more time and less stress.

Maybe we’ll learn to think twice before buying stuff and food. Maybe we’ll start buying only if we throw away something. Maybe we won’t fill up the fridge with food we’ll trash, maybe we’ll start valuing these things not based on the status they’ll give to us, but on the value they’ll take into our lives.

Not because we want to make a good impression, but because we value what they are.

And maybe, just maybe, we’ll start thinkin about people in the same way.
Not weighting their status, their role, their posessions, but what kind of value they take into the world and into our lives.

A radical shift nonetheless, but a shift that’s not impossible to achieve.

If you’re learning a new, complex, skill, you’ll fail a lot.
This is normal. 
But if you want to accomplish something and understand the behaviour and the mechanics behind your topic, you might want to reduce it to the small viable part that executes it.

For example, say you want to learn how to tackle complex problems with your husband you might not want to start with your big issue, but with a small issue. Reduce the stakes so that even if you fail it won’t be a problem.

This way you can test, fail and refine, and only after you mastered the smallest part, you go up higher.