Thoughts about changing, life, and whatever comes to mind.
We think about priorities as a todo list, something to be accountable for.
It’s quite common to say: My priority in life is to lose fat, to be fit, to learn swimming.
But then we do nothing.
Was it a priority? No.
Priorities are not what we think we should do, but what we actually do. Our facts and decisions define our priorities.
Yes, priorities can be defined well before their actions, but sometimes they don’t match. What we do is different than what we expected to be.
When should you say no? When a no is more important than accepting?
You’ll be facing tough times in life, there are 2 things that will put you off.
First: Some changes don’t disrupt instantly. They remove your energy one brick at a time, making you unable to change.
Think about a work you don’t love. You can bear with it for some time, but after a long time it’ll be too much.
Secondly: You have to say no and protect your borders.
Borders are all about defining what’s important, what do you care about, and acting towards that goal.
Even if it damages you, even if it’s agaist your interest, you must protect the borders as long as they are sound.
Why? It’s not a matter of ideology, it’s a matter of protecting the things you love.
You would do it for your children, you would do it for your mother.
Now it’s time to do it for yourself.
The NYT best seller book “4hr workweek” was rejected 27 times.
Think about it when you feel like giving up, ’cause you don’t know when you’ll get to your 28th.
My first love letter was handwritten. I wrote it to a girl I liked when I was a child.
Each and every morning we would take the same train to get to school. She was blonde, beautiful.
I didn’t knew her, I didn’t knew where she was headed to, and I was shy.
I decided that writing and hiding a letter into her backback was the best way to go.
I hand wrote it and hid it into her backpack.
Days later I found a letter in my backpack.
I opened it, there she was, replying to me.
It didn’t go well, I was rejected.
Today I’m still shy, but in different things, although I would suspect that my approach wouldn’t change that much.
Today the importance of writing in my life is still the same, and it’s easy now to see that trajectory. Writing was key for me, it didn’t seem at that time but it’s crystal clear now that writing was a part of my life.
Trajectories are hard to predict. You can’t see them until you’re a bit far away, then they become clear.
Yet they’re obvious, the things you do without thinking, the things you do “naturally”, are the ones you should cultivate in life, either as passions or work.
I was trying to unscrew something from my balcony. I couldn’t do it. I tried for days and nothing. It seemed stuck. Used wd40 on the screw before trying to turn it but it stuck.
I needed someone strong to keep it blocket while I was pushing so that I could unscrew correctly.
I managed to do it thanks to one thing: There was something on the upper part that blocked my tool and when that stuck, I was finally able to screw it entirely.
Not every obstacle is something that is going to kill you.
Most of them are going to help you, but it’s up to you to see their potential.
Come on, give me the chills 