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There will come a time when a sequence of actions made by the people around you will look like they are conspiring against you. That you won’t get the right attention.

You’re just unlucky. That’s it. No other reason behind it, no one is going against your tide, even if it seems, even if it might seem so.

How many times you felt like what you were trying to communicate didn’t get across the other person? 

They always got it wrong.
Now you’re the one getting it wrong. You’re the one reading between the lines where there’s no story to be told.

From time to time the world will set up a trap for your mind.
Fall for it, and you’ll be in despair.
Survive, and your toolkit will be greater than before.

We’re planning our DIY honeymoon in chile and what blocked me the most are distances. Chile is soo damn big that it’s hard to plan a trip in that country.

Planning for arrival and departures given that a bus can incur in any kind of issue, problem whatsoever. 

It was way easier planning a trip in japan than chile, there the times are much more clean and defined and it’s easy to decide. 
The strange thing was that this whole planning thing was quite stressful. It kept hanging in my mind for a while. I kept thinking and getting back about it.

Now we have mostly finalized it but I miss the fact that many places are missing.

Maybe we’ll see them in the future, maybe not, who knows. But in the end I arrived to the conclusion that I shall do a more “free” trip. No booked hotels, no booked buses. 
Only the departure and return date.
What’s in the middle will be the story to tell.

Yesterday I put a collegue under a bit more pressure mostly because I needed her to realize the value of everyone in the team.

I talked first with her, then with other people to shed some light onto this issue. Then at the end of the day I noticed that she was keeping some distance when talking.

I’m not the smartest in the room, but my empathy works really well.
I knew she was a little upset, and although I didn’t put her under bad light, I knew she needed to understand the reasoning to not make confusions on why I did this.

So the next day I explained to her my reasoning and what was causing the issue. I already told her the problems, but I wanted to clear up what was the goal and why it was important.

She told me she didn’t have any issue and she was fine even yesterday.
But I’m sure she was not.
And here’s the thing: We have been accustomed to hiding rage or let rage explode.
Confrontation, trying to discuss a difficult topic, is another thing.
It takes courage, it’s the long road. Confrontation is not easy, and it’s hard for both parties, but in the end it’s the best way.

I’m sure she was upset about something, but she didn’t told me. I’m sure my behaviour was not 100% but I didn’t get any information about it.
This way there’s no possibility for me to correct, and here it lies the main issue with “keeping it for yourself”.
Talking about problems might be difficult and requires lot of self control to avoid abusing and being abused by the rage, but in the end it allows all the people to grow, if they want to.

Not telling it intestead it’s one of the easiest way to hide and run from the battle.

These days we’re testing out C25K, a method to learn how to run 5km without stopping.

I’m not a runner, but I have to admit that each time I tried, I failed 😀
I have the right muscles but I break easily. Probably because my joints don’t keep up with muscles.

That said, this method has a very progressive curve that allow me and my gf to try it without any big issue. It’s fantastic. Which leads me to the point: learning is a step by step process.
Each time you shortcut, you’ll break something.

September was a suuuper-lazy month yet I’ve wrote something 😀

why it was lazy? I think it was mostly because I always tried to wrote when going to bed and I often was exhausted.

In this month I’ve also started a new bodyweight program which I hope it’ll give me some nice improvements in the long run.

That said, here are some of my faves

•  quality over quantity 
•  blocking the obvious 
•  kids don’t care 
•  you won’t ever be good enough