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Everything can look important until it’s not. 

All of our actions, needs, both in life and work can have some sense of urgency. But is that real? Will that urgency actually have consequences we care about?
And even if there are some consequences, how do they stack up against the rest?

Years ago, while looking at an ecommerce I would often say: If everything is on sale, nothing is.

The same applies to urgency. If everything is urgent, nothing is. And the ability to pick one thing and prioritize it is what makes urgency itself worthwhile. 

Because now we are giving value and space to that request of “I need this now”.

After having a child, some people start feeling they’re not “free anymore”.
As if they’re trapped somewhere they can’t escape.

Freedom, as many other things, is partly a state of mind. It’s the gap between what I want to do and what I actually do.
Note the fact that I’m saying “what I actually do” and not “what I’m allowed to do”.

Why? We often choose to do something, we spontaneously limit ourselves.
As a result we feel like our freedom has been taken away by the children.

“It’s the same though”, you might say and I would also partly agree, but if we look closer I’d also add that this feeling of not being free is also a gap in adaptation. It’s like being used to drive sports car and then buying a utility cart and expect they work the same way.

They do not, and we adapt to that, there’s no freedom missing. We knew it and we can drive the utility car just as well.
When you miss freedom it’s worth asking: What am I missing? What’s the thing I want to do that I can’t do it anymore?

By going deeper into this question, by understanding which choices led to this moment, you might see what’s the things you truly miss.

Embrace the boredom, the imperfections, the time when you are terrible at doing things.

Embrace it because it’s part of life, embrace it because making it perfect won’t make it real.

Embrace it because you will start to learn how to cope with that feeling and be comfortable with it.

Not because life should be made of boredom or being uncomfortable.

But because life -will- be uncomfortable and if you are able to cope with it, getting to the next step will always be easier.

Where do you place yourself in a scale of learning? 
How frequent you like to learn?
Do you like to realize that you still have a long way to go before achieving some mastery in a skill?

Learning is not optional. We continuously learn something, from life, from work, from friendships.
There is an infinite game and you can either enjoy the game or simply be influenced by it. 

With a small caveat: If you decide to play, then you have more chances to choose what you want to learn. Set the direction, sail towards new islands.

It’s up to you.

It’s hard to look at the recent layoffs (Microsoft, Google, etc) and not think about the many times the phrase “I take full responsibility for this” has been said.

A while ago I watched a Simon Sinek video where he would explain how, in modern culture, it’s ok to layoff people to make the numbers match so that the company appears in a healthy (or wealthy) state.

Whenever I hear “I take full responsibility” I always wonder what is the price they’re paying. Because looking from here, it seems to me that the only trouble they’ll get into is mostly about their public image, but there won’t be any internal consequences.

How would they stop this from happening again? What didn’t work out?
Why did they make the hiring in the first place?
Because even while reading the full press announcements, those questions go unanswered, and I feel they shouldn’t.