you should track the small steps

A year is a long time.

It passes like a day, I know, but in fact during one entire year lots of good and bad shit happens and we end up forgetting some of them.

That’s why we should keep track of what we are doing.
To remember, to love. to discover what was wonderful, to remember every single step along this journey.

There will always be bad times, and those times will stay attached to your memory way more better than the good ones.
So make space for the ones worth remembering, the good, the wonderful, the beautiful.

Make space for them so they won’t be a number and you’ll end up thinking that yes, it was a long journey, but it was worth the trouble.

if all the love was done onto you

If all the love was done onto you then it would be the perfect day.

Having love, discovering love, living love, is one of the most powerful things that could ever happen to you.
If it happens, then it’s your perfect day.

When people care, when people move for you, that’s when you feel the change, the power, the intimacy.
That’s what love is all about.

But to  make this powerful change happen there is one caveat we must face: We are the ones entitled to do love to others.

We can’t nor should expect love to come to us, instead we must spread it as a virus, as a viral video on you tube.
Love, empathy, presence, whatever you prefer, is something we must start doing constantly on every single person we meet during our life.

the illusion of bad thought

Bad thoughts seem always like the right thing, it’s absolutely normal to think that it’s best to share them with someone.

Sharing our dark thoughts seems compelling, but is that useful? Does that help with solving the problem?

If all we do is keep  complaining than it’s difficult to find an exit to the tunnel.
That way, it’s best to keep your mouth shut, and understand why you feel the urge to share such bad thought.

a matter of priority, faux interest vs real interest

Yesterday I was talking to a friend,, once I shared with him my 2015 goals he said that he too wanted to do that many things (I was talking about contributing to opensource and so on) but he just couldn’t make it.
When he got home, he didn’t have the will to do it and he slacked.

I don’t think he really slacked, I’m much more convinced that we have different priorities.
Some priorities are just invisible to us, because we are not able to distinguish “real interest” from “faux interest”.

Real interest is something that drives you deeply, it’s what you think during your day. It’s a motivator of your life.
If you are doing martial arts 3 times a week constantly, you probably have a real interest going on there.

This doesn’t mean that the real interest will last forever. Some times it’s just a mood, some time will just go away in a few weeks.
But for those few weeks it’s on your mind with a big red light that says “Follow me” and your interest is there.

Faux interest can be pictured like something we want to do but that in the end we end up not doing.
It’s the “I’d love to do that, but I’m just too busy”.

I believe there’s some sort of emulation here. We want to emulate success (which, in my modest case I think it’s just “doing a lot of things”) or results.

We are attracted to that idea, and so when we say “I want do build a product, to learn japanese, to learn to dance” what we really mean is “I want to earn lots of money with a successful product, I want to be attractive thanks to my languages, I want to not be embarassed when I’m dancing” and so on.

It’s a subtle trick of our mind.
If we got something we didn’t quite do but we wanted to do so much, maybe it’s time to consider why we care about it and we’re not willing to move a finger for it.

the introvert advantage

I am an introvert, at least I think so, and one of the things I always found out true about myself is determination.
Which shouldn’t be confused with the fact that I, occasionally, procrastinate as much as anyone out here in the world.

Being an introvert gives you a place to think of, where your time is the most valuable thing.
Introverts, like me, tend to think about the situations to learn from them and act accordingly.

We don’t learn by body, we learn by mind (if this sounds a bit strange, think of it of body memory and mind memory, that’s the idea).
It’s our mind that slowly process information and creates pattern to react instead of learning invisibly by the body.

This is not always a good thing, since we are (at least myself) really slow at learning by body or without thoughts on the matter.

Being an introvert thaught me to value my words, to listen to my mind and to move forward slowly and steadly, knowing that I will get to the point eventually.

prejudice will grow on us

If we keep talking and complain, if we keep giving our bad voice a stage we will just continue to let our prejudice grow upon us, to change us.

Many people online believe we are what we do, not only what we say.
But listening to this motto might hide a different issue.

Saying something is doing something.
You chose the words, you chose the context and the people whom you shared the information with.
You took a decision that’s much more deeper than you thought.

Slowly, the single act of repeating something will turn into a bad mantra, an habit that will grow a new beard on you, an invisible beard you can’t recognize.

This beard will define you from here on, it’s your mark, your tatoo.
It’s what you are now.

Giving space to some bad thoughts and prejudice is not just a matter of words, it’s a matter of heart.
What your heart will become next, nobody can know.

make lists and do one thing

Making lists helps defining how we work, it ignites into our brain a pattern to create a map, a defined map of what we are going to do and how we are going to do it.

Let’s take a degree thesis for example.
When you are preparing your thesis you are usually out of ideas, but to me the best advice I’ve ever received on that was “Do the index first”.

I initially wondered, why prepare the index of the thesis beforehand?
It didn’t take long to realize that creating the index laid out all the work I would have done later on.
Thanks to that, writing the thesis was really easy because the most intimidating part was “What should I write?”

So, whenever I need to define what to do I usually write a list, my index, and then move on one step at a time, trying to not change the context.

I do it also in my work.
As a web developer it happens to build an application that’s more complex than usual.
When I need to do that sometimes I can’t visualize entirely the program, so I write small comments, defining what will be the steps, and then I work on the smallest part, building it until it is full fledged, tested, working.

I just love indexes.

the lies behind every **urgent** matter

You probably already know that emails are a way for other people to allocate your time (and if you don’t, learn it now).

The thing about emails and urgent emails is even more interesting.
Urgent, is something referred to a situation.
The email containing the “URGENT” element in the message usually answer the “what” question.

What is urgent?

Thing is… what’s really important is why, which is often forgot.

Why is it urgent?
Is it urgent because you will lose your job?
Is it urgent because you won’t get paid?
or because you forgot it to do it before?

Urgency is a very delicate matter, adding it requires exposing a lot of vulnerability and therefore it is a practice that’s ignored by many peopl.

Still, sharing the urgency could enlighten us in 2 ways

– by letting understand how much urgent it is (once we write it down we might realize it’s not that urgent).
– by empowering the people we are communicating to, allowing them to help us in the best possible way.

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