cheap or durable?

The more time it passes the more I’m inclined to buy “durable” things.
From clothing, to computer devices I started to see the benefits of something that will endure the test of time and will create less disposal and use less space.

I don’t think buying cheap things is bad, I still buy them in many cases, but I came to realize the value of “investing into good things”.
While the cheap things might seem convenient, they trick you into buying more and more and more, making your closet full of things you might wear once a year.

To me, this is not good. I realized I didn’t need that many things, and gave them away.
So, all in all, I believe we should always seek something that will last in every part of our life.

If you think about it, you can compare this also to relationship.
A long lasting relationship is surely different from a short one, it can let you grow in ways you wouldn’t expect.

Although it doesn’t make your closet empty 🙂

follow your dream

Life will change you, people will change you.
The only way you can stay true to yourself is not by trying to be a static character, but to learn and dive into these unsafe waters.

To do that you must follow your dream.

Yesterday I went talking with a person who reminded what the “follow your dream” was about.
It was not about ego, it was about trusting my gut.
My gut seemed to have figured it all, but I couldn’t follow it because I felt unsure.

She helped me realize what was it all along, the value in following our dreams.

fighting, hating, and the energy you lose

We all need energy, to move, to talk, to sleep.

We need it to ensure that our relationship are healthy, and although we know this, we tend to dissipate our energy from time to time.
Hating, fighting, etc.

Every time you hate or start a harsh discussion, you  lose energy, you lose control, you lose some good part of you.
This energy won’t come back to you instantly, but after hours or days or even weeks depending on how big was the discussion.

Try it, or just remember the last time you were hating.

We are tricked into this game.
We think it’s our right to protect what we think.
What we don’t think about is that we can express in other ways, using other words, for example.

We think that we are right.
What we don’t think about is that we might just be wrong.

We think it’s good, because sometimes you have to shake the foundation.
What we don’t think about is that, aside from bringing a negative emotion into other beings, that negative emotion starts being “normal” in our mind.
There are no controlled negative emotions, but your body and mind can start considering them “normal”, and therefore the more time it passes, the more difficult unwinding will be.

We think many things, I surely do.
Now, more than ever, I got to the point where I’m sure about one thing:
Negative emotions, expressions, reaction, are not an healthy thing and shouldn’t ever be considered good or even needed.

They are bad, as bad as their name.
They are viral.
They are contagious and we still don’t have a 100% working cure.

We should share the love, try to learn and listen from others, try to understand other’s point of view, try to be compassionate.
We should change the world with our smile, not with our rage, engaging with our friend and the people we meet every day with a deep desire to understand, to not let it out any bad emotion.

Not by controlling the good emotion, but by cultivating them, by threat them as special beings that could die anytime.
We shall be understanding and open, we shall be more human than this.

streaks and this blog

This blog started on december 28, 2014, mostly because I wanted to setup a new habit and because I wanted to improve my english writing.

It all started with the book “What to do when it’s your turn” by Seth Godin, and it started because there were many things to say.

Sometimes they were useless, sometimes they were complex thoughts that were staying in my head with no reason.
This blog is not a place where everything is interesting, but it’s a place where I want to continue my streak in writing.

It has been a while since I truly kept up with the streak. Many days are missing and I can see them from the monthly post count.
And the thing about streaks is that usually there isn’t a good reason for interrupting them.
You always do it for laziness, not for other important topics.

So I want to get back on track and continue pushing this blog forward, keeping my mind on and my words flowing.
Some of the thoughts are written here were unknown even to me, I couldn’t expect their birth, let alone writing them, this is why this streak is so important: it has helped me grow.

If you ever struggle improving a language, or putting down on paper what you think, starting a daily blog is one of the best thing you could do.

the challenge will come, if you ask for it

Life can be easy.
But if you deeply care about improving, learning, going forward, then you’ll somewhat want ad uneasy life.

Not a threatening one. Not necessarily a difficult one, but a challenging life for sure.
All the challenges are difficult by nature, they will do their best to change you for the worst, to make you regret your choice.

You will stumble into walls, bad paths, wrong choices.
But at the end of the road you’ll always get what you wanted: you’ll learn something.

beauty is in the little things

One day you’ll figure it out all, you’ll know what causes life, what destroys it.
One day, everything will be clear and all the question will be answered.

Until that day, I hope you’ll start seeing the beauty of life in a small, a helping hand, a compassionate friend, a good deed or just the time you spend with your family.

I hope you won’t see the world as a superhero does, full of big actions and great powers and results.
I hope you’ll notice the beauty in the small things the ones we are already submerged into, the one we live in.
The beauty of life.

the dirty secret to laziness

There is no person around the world that isn’t lazy.
We all are, maybe on different degrees and topics, but we all are.

So, what’s the matter with being lazy? In fact, not so much.
Being lazy isn’t a problem by per se, it’s a problem when it affects your life and when it doesn’t help you living a richer life.

I suspect there are not so many other rules to this game.
Being lazy can be good if it means to nurture yourself for a while.
It isn’t so good when you do it everyday to avoid decision, to avoid change, to avoid improving.

The next time you see a super-active person doing so many things remember this: we are all lazy.
You might not know where that person is lazy, but he or she is and the issue in that case is that you somewhat feel inferior because he/her can accomplish so much and you don’t because you’re lazy.

Sadly, laziness isn’t the problem.

how to lose customers

This is the only guide nobody would like to read and learn from it, but overall we are flooded by examples on how we can lose loyal customers.

I recently switched from my old telephone company to a new one.
Not because I didn’t like their offer, but because they promised something, failed to deliver it, failed to acknowledge the problem, failed to solve it.

There were many things they could have done to fix it before this situation, but they did none.
Today I received a call that offered me a good offer, somewhat better than the one I have with my new carrier.

I gladly rejected it.
It’s not about the money, it’s about the ability for a company to follow the customers, to threat them correctly, to behave.

I don’t expect the new company to be a human example of kindness, nobody would.
But they haven’t betrayed my trust, so for now I’m staying.
Having your trust betrayed after something like 10 years is bad. It makes you wonder.

So, all in all, if you don’t want customer, there are a few thing you must do

  • Ignore them
  • Don’t acknowledge their issue
  • Don’t solve their problems
  • Don’t help them
  • Keep working only for the money
  • Let the company outgrow your power to control who’s in and who gets to talk to the client

Seriously, it’s not about the price, it’s about the behavior.
Recently I was unsure of which VPS provider use.
I checked out VPSIE and DigitalOcean, and I went with DigitalOcean even though they were offering me less and they didn’t have live chat support.

Why? Because one of the reply email I got from VPSIE used a tone I didn’t like.

I would say they “Fu**ed up” the entire tone of the email, but hey, it’s a matter of what tone you use after all.
DigitalOcean, on the other hand, has a stellar record of good customer support, even with me that I wasn’t a customer.

Keeping customer, losing customer, is often a matter of behave.

the road to sharing

I always wondered what it takes to share with other people what you know.
It took me almost 6 months to start doing it, to understand the simple basics, to be what many might call a newbie.

I haven’t become an expert by any means but know at least I understand the reason, what moves this decision and what makes it worth it.

Sharing knowledge is both something you do for yourself and for others, but what really surprised is the reason for the former.

You don’t do it for fame, you don’t do it for glory.
Personally I do it to not forget and to enjoy the sharing.

Why? Because I tend to forget, and my knowledge changes over time. By writing down passages you are forced to create a diagram of the actions, you basically improve your memory.

Also, by writing, you allow the information to be searchable, making it more accessible to yourself, not only to others.

All in all, I can’t find a reason to _not_share.

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