showing up in a bad mood

I more than ever believe that you must show up and do the work even if you’re in a bad mood, even if you are having a headache.

Always showing up will strengthen your will, and will allow you to surpass any obstacle that might cross your way.

we are a family

There comes a time when you start thinking more about family than couple, more about us than we.

It’s a subtle change in vision, but it defines what you will become.
To me has happened recently and it’s becoming every day more important.

It’s moving out of a comfort zone to enter an entire new world, totally unknown.

too much silence

I slacked, again.

Failed to check-in in 3 days for this blog, and it’s bad.
At first I thought I could just pass it on, but everytime I skip the habit it becomes clear how much I’m losing.

It’s like skipping an heartbeat, you don’t quite notice, but it’s a signal that your body is has issues.
And if you don’t fix it, you might die.

Keeping good habit is almost the same thing.
In the routine you forgot why you decided to keep that habit up, and in my case that was “changing, improving, etc”.
Which obviously I’m not doing if I don’t care and leave the habit aside.

So here I am. Let’s keep going-

funding is bad

I am a strong believer in bootstrapped services, it’s easy for them to be accountable, to grow with the users.

The funding thing is nice, but it leaves space for service to fail, badly.
This type of failure is often accompanied with a bunch of people who were absolutely deluded by the service closure.

Funding, on the other hands, allows services to do bigger things.
Many revolutionary services wouldn’t be born without the flow of money of a funding mostly because creating a big revolutionary system requires money, at least on a large scale.

Growing slow isn’t sexy, we are used to read about how Facebook, whatsapp, and other tools were born, and we forget that many of them grew slowly.

Many multi million business weren’t born in a night.
Some of them did, but many of them grew slowly and steadily.

The boostrapped way.

queue and bandwidth 

If you are waiting in a queue that’s too slow (like I am right now) then the issue is with the bandwidth of the system.

If you find yourself queuing too much tasks then you should think about how much bandwidth do you have, and then rethinking your priorities.

Allocating time and mind for thins you won’t do is useless.

are we ignoring spirituality?

I’m reading the “Choose yourself” book from James Altucher right now, and although many of the things are very “self help” like, there are some things that James surely add to the mix,

First, he’s not giving the same old advice, some of it is pretty original and, if not controversial, at least out of the normal thinking.

Reading this book is making me realize that when we think about improving we always think about skills.

Skills to earn money, skills to earn relationships, skills to earn respect.

This is the usual thinking when we think about changing ourself.
The goal is not to improve ourselves, but to solve a situation.
If we have not very much money then we’ll think about earning more money, if we are lacking good relationships then we’ll think about how to connect, if we want power then we will find a way to earn respect.

Thinking about this it seems that in many cases when we want to change ourselves all we really care about is changing our relation with the outside world, it doesn’t really talk about changing ourself.
It’s about fixing problems.

How could it be different? We are humans, we follow our desires, instead of building them.
The difference here is even more subtle.

And induced desire is something we acquire.
Much like the inception movie, an induced desire is implanted in our thinking.
We want power because we feel controlled by our boss.
We want money because we didn’t have enough to spend.

Who does implant it?
TV, Friends, family, social things, everything.

If everyone is marrying this year you might think that you want to marry someone too.
Here it is, implanted again, our mind reacts to both the tribe movements of our society and our social relationships.
Then it starts building and idea, an idea based upon those inputs, to create a definition of our perfect world.

But in this definition, something might be missing, and that’s one of the things I found refreshing in the James Altucher book.
Spirituality.

We should nurture our inner self as much as our outer one.
And by outer, in this case, I mean the self-image we have, not our body.
Our body is another key part we should take care of.

Spirituality is not only about religion or faith.
Is about cultivating love with the world.
When I talk about spirituality I also talk about how you should nurture your relationships, not from a material point of view (sex, gains, etc), but from a connective point of view.

How many hearts have you touched this months?
How many people have you tried to touch within?
To how many did you show your true pain, your fears?

I’m not talking about complaining of what’s wrong with your life with your best friend, no, I’m talking about showing yourself as the fragile being you are, allowing people to touch your heart too.

But how does spirituality links with desire?
I talked about the inducted desire, the one which is not ours.
The question is: do we have a real desire? I think so.

I think we have a deeper desire which doesn’t relates with our personal goals.
It’s a desire to create a better world, to help people, to be happy and see happiness.
A desire to love our body, care for it as much as we do with our iPhone and maybe more.
A desire to hug your love or your friend without awkwardness, with no ego or sexual meaning.

Just for love.

I am very distant from the goal, I have yet to learn how to hug so deeply to make someone cry, but I’m on my way.
These goals aren’t visible in our daily life, and require lot of courage to handle because you will start questioning what’s really important and the answer won’t be money, won’t be power, the answer might just be unexpected.

 

did geniuses shaped the world?

I recently watched the Enigma movie, the one talking about Alan Turing.

A wonderful movie that shares some of the difficulties Turing encountered during his life and lastly during the fight against the nazi.

After the movie we all began talking about how thanks to geniuses the world is now what we have come to know it.

But is that right? Do we stand on the shoulders of geniuses only?
While I can’t deny that geniuses did help the revolutionize the world, I can’t stop thinking that the world is this way mostly thanks to normal people.

Think about it for a second: How many geniuses there were in history?
Given the plethora of inventions, ideas, features we have access to I don’t think the geniuses invented them all.
Some of them are indeed a work of a genius, but some others are just the result of a slow and steady evolution, and others are the result of unknown strangers.

Let’s talk about George de Mestral, shall we?
I first started thinking about his contributions to the world after watching the movie Garden State (if you didn’t watch it, do it now).
George wasn’t a “genius” per se, in fact nobody probably knows his name, but he invented one of the most useful thing you could find in a house: Velcro.

Yes, that velcro.

I think we love too much the idea of the geniuses as saviours of the world.
It’s a nice view because it relieves us from having the burden to make this world a better place.
Why would we try to help the world? We are just normal people. Changing the world is for geniuses, and I’m not one of them
It’s easy to think this way, isn’t it?

But life as we know it has grown thanks to normal people that did normal or extraordinary things.
Watch closely: normal or extraordinary.
Not one or the other, not both.

Could you change the world with just normal actions? Yes. many people are doing that in this same moment.
They are helping homeless people having a dinner, or maybe they’re just solving a problem and the next whatsapp might be born.
It doesn’t take a genius to have a problem and try to solve it, it just takes courage and time.

In fact the courage part is needed only when you want to share it to change the world.

So what’s the deal?
Are we all geniuses?
Absolutely not, geniuses are way above the average, but that comes also with a price.
Yet what we are is pure magic because we can do the difference, because the history tells us that the whole world is here thanks to people like us.

Normal people who just wanted to solve easy things.

can you help?

If there’s a way you can help a friend in need, then indeed you should help.

But aside from that, another thing you might want to do is to help him anyway, to give a friend a new opportunity, a choice, a better life.

Don’t start only with the one asking for help, consider the silent ones, the ones that don’t talk.
There are people in this world that keep all the pain for themselves. They shut their mouth and you won’t ever hear them suffering, although they do.

They do suffer as much as us, but they prefer not to show.
Or maybe they just don’t realize they could live a better life.

I’m not talking about forcing people to change, or showing them “the way” (btw, there’s no “the way”, so if you believe it, stop it).
No, I’m talking about giving without expecting.

Give them a chance to network with a people they might help again, or which they might need.

Give them a chance to talk and give yourself the opportunity to listen.

Give them a change to choose what they want to do, or maybe just give them the relaxation to not decide a thing for one night.

Take them out in the beauty of the sunshine, offer them a coffee and just give to them an unexpected present, something that will remind them of how beautiful this life is, how full of mysteries and energy it is.

It’s a simple thing, yet it’s powerful.

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