can we save the world?

Is there a way to save the world?

As individuals I believe we just can’t, there’s no way, superpower, or skill which can help us achieving such an enormous goal.

But together, yes, we can build, we can change.
We can make the world a better place by following our dreams, no the driven by ego dreams, but the ones that help people, that create a better place.

Those dreams, the ones where you help someone, are the best in the world.
When you follow that gut feeling, everything will change.

the invisible obvious

What is the obvious?

Obvious is when you already know how things will go, is like having a solution to a math problem without the need to solve it.

Knowledge become obvious after you spend many hours learning or practicing.
You internalize every mechanism a skill requires and it becomes obvious to you.

Like swimming, at first you don’t know how to swim, then you start learning the basics.
How to put the arms, how to move the feet.
Then you practice, again and again, until everything becomes automatic.

Then again you keep improving by doing things you don’t know how to do, actions and movements new to you.
After a lot of time spent swimming, the difficult becomes easy and the easy becomes obvious.

It’s obvious then that you must have a breath pattern, etc etc.
So obvious there’s no need to think about it anymore.
You won’t think of what you need to do, you just do it.
After a while you forget about all the small steps, you remember the main core, but all the microsteps you have integrated into your movement, all the adjustments are lost.

They are obvious afterall.

Time after time, the obvious becomes invisible. It is no more a part of your knowledge, the knowledge of your brain.
It’s a memory of your body, a reaction to an impulse, a connection.

Once the obvious becomes invisible we are left with the skill.
What about teaching then?
Can we teach what we learned?

Sure we can.
We can tell the main parts, the things we remember, the movements that are important now.
But what about the micro adjustments? The small learning steps now forgotten?

They are all gone.

Once you get to the invisible obvious all that learning is gone, and you are left with the expectation that by doing X you’ll have Y.
Just a connection, a response to an action.
The path that from X leads to Y is now foggy, and you can’t quite tell what’s in there, what’s the progression.

The invisible obvious is not something that will appear while you learn.
It will appear in the everyday life too.

Relationships of any kind can be affected by the obvious invisible once you automate actions in your mind.
If your spouse is complaining you might think that she always do this when she want to have some love for you.
It might be true, but what if you’re considering obvious something that isn’t?
What if now you’re on a different path?

Prejudice, expectation, is the invisible obvious.
It seems like a friend, but it’s not.

the purpose of love

The beauty of love lies in its attitude.

You give and give and give, there’s no expectation, no anticipation. It is the act of giving itself that is beautiful.

Giving instead of asking marvels me every time.

When a stranger give something to you, you are delighted by his kindness.

Do 1 kind thing to a stranger today, be the giver.

expecting the world to behave

Every time someone doesn’t behave in the way we expect, we feel a bit frustrated.

It’s as if we expect to be the one dictating the rule of the world, therefore when something doesn’t go that way, there must be an error somewhere.
But what error?
We are indeed free to choose, free to tell, free to share.

Having a different opinion, making a different choice shouldn’t be an error, yet it’s difficult to move this cultural behaviour outside this box.
Many people will expect that you behave under their rules, in their world.

That’s ok, there’s nothing wrong with them either.
But if they start telling you how you should change, be different, etc, remind yourself that you are what you decide.
Remind yourself that nobody in the world owns the right to know what’s ok in your life, many can guess, and some will also be right, but in the end you’re the one deciding which road to take.

It’s easy to expect others to change, much less easier to change ourselves.
Every time you expect another person to behave differently remember this question
“Would I do things differently just because someone is telling me to?”
If not, if the question doesn’t even cross your mind, then why bothering pretending the same thing to others?

will you do the impossible?

If there’s a scary word, it should be impossible.

Impossible means that it cannot be achieved, that this world doesn’t allow that such thing to happen freely.
We are bound to rules.

It was a while that I read nevblog on how to make 1 Million dollars in 1 month.
It was fascinating.

At first I thought “How could be possible to do, from zero, 1 million dollars in a month?”
The comments of the post are really thoughtful and interesting, full of ideas. They show what can be done.

What will you do if your child has been kidnapped and the sum you have to give amounts to 1 Million?
That’s the question.
And the second question is: Will you achieve the impossible?

In your day-to-day life this thought might not even cross your mind, but given the extreme situation of the example, you might react in 2 ways

  • get crazy in a second, thinking “there’s no way”
  • asking “how can I make that dollars?”

If you fall into the second group of people, then something interesting happens.
You start thinking about how to do it, your mind will burn at the end, but you might also do what you thought was impossible.

There are people who make much more than 1 million in less time, so that isn’t impossible at all.
What feels impossible is that you cannot do it.
And sure it’s  difficult, but definitely not impossible.

choose the words, change them

Words have value, but what happens if you keep repeating the same words over and over again?

The value of the words decrease, their importance once high goes lower.

It’s as if words have a source of energy and power, but this power is finite, and it gets consumed every time you repeat them.

If you want to leave the value of your words intact use them once, use them wisely.

train to fail

I was walking just right outside the beautiful Milan railway station where, at this hour of the day, a cold sunset was about to lie down in the city horizon.

At 5pm many young guys group together outside the station in the main “park” (it has no greens, hence the enclosure”) to train with a skateboard.

They are young and most of them are newbies in the field.

I kept watching them, day after day, until today I suddenly realized how stubborn, difficult, and exceptional training they did every single day.

When training to jump with a skateboard you fail, often, fast.

Unless you are gifted chances are the skateboard won’t rotate properly or you will fall down hitting the ground.

And they do. They crush on the ground, they fail to put the weight correctly causing the skateboard to not rotate properly.

But in an amusing way they continue training like it never happened.

The thing is… There are no intermediate steps, you fail or you succeed. And after this many failures they still continue to try no matter what.

I can relate to this. There are many times when you try try try and you fail the same way, but you have to continue and the reason is because you don’t know that you are progressing (and you are).

The only thing you can do is keep failing until you get to learn the right amount of weight you must out onto the skateboard.

Fail until every single action align in a perfectly orchestrated movement, and for the first time you succeed.

After that first success you will fail many times until those “configurations” are a mechanical part of you. You will continue until you can discern the reason of failure in a perfect way (“I putted less weight during the rotation”) and master the technique.

It’s easy to give up, but many times it’s only because we don’t see the progress.

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