Few days ago I thought about love, yes, that love.
That kind of human behaviour that empowers people, that allow us to change ourself, to do something we would never thought possible.
Love as a way of be grateful, love as a way to dedicate your whole life to another person, love that’s deep and open.
The openness of love struck me.
I was talking with a friend and she was telling me that “some thing ought happen slowly, they should take their time”.
It was chit-chatting, I didn’t want to get into a deep discussion about feeling, so I just let it go.
When I came home I thought more about it, and what I realized is that she was probably scared.
It was just an impression but you know how it goes, right?
You love, then you get burned, then you think “I won’t love again”, then you love, then you get burn again, and so on.
We start building an armor to protect ourselves from being burned, and over time we start saying things like “too early for this”.
A relationship that’s too early for something might have 2 issue
- The relationship isn’t right
- You are scared
I don’t think there’s much more to this, either there’s not enough feeling, or your scared as hell.
Then, I realized one thing: Emotions, feelings, are not time independent.
Emotions exists right in the moment, they might grow but only when you nurture them.
If you don’t they disappear, if you do they might still change.
Every emotion that you feel for someone or something exists only in that instant.
It might be very different in the next minute.
They are not an object you can store and retrieve at will, they will perish or change, but never will stay absolutely the same forever.
This made me realize how foolish it is to ignore them, to hide them because they might be troublesome.
Yes, sometime feelings create troubles, but wouldn’t it be possible that that’s the outcome anyway?
Those emotions will eventually come out, so it might be better show them as early as possible, failing probably more, but without ever sacrificing that flame that’s burning inside us.
Every single emotion is just like a Sakura flower, it exist for a small time, and should be nurtured and loved as much as possible, because we don’t get a second chance to see it that way.