Category: Blog

What’s the use of partying, the use of writing the things you can do on facebook?

Is it personal marketing or is it something different?

Unless you’re trying to brand yourself or place a product the only thing you’re probably accomplishing is receiving some “Oh, great!” from your friends. A positive reinforcement nonetheless.

But, what’s it for?
Is it because you want to do more, to share tactics? I rarely see posts like this with useful information for the people around you, what commonly happens is that you share it for your ego.

Not to enrich other people, but to enrich yourself only.
What if you translate those posts so that they become useful for others? What if they add a contribution to the world?

It’ll lead other people to do so, it’ll inspire them, and more importantly, you’ll set ego aside for something much bigger than you: leaving the world in a better state.

It might happen. You’ve always had a job that tells you what to do, step by step.

One day a colleague comes to you and ask you your opinion on a new thing. A thing you never did before, a thing no one gave you the instructions.
A thing that you “made” before, but only as a gear, as a small part of a bigger machine.

Your mind becomes blank, no ideas on the horizon.
What to do, what to say, are nowhere to be found.

You feel useless, not ready for this, not prepared. You fell like you _are_ incapable.

It might seem like a creative narration but in fact it’s part of a real story I saw and I can also relate to that.
In our work we are sometimes gears of a bigger machine. Parts of a masterplan we don’t fully see.

Yet, without us, that masterplan wouldn’t have been there. We are part of the knowledge that made it possible, yet we don’t trust our work because we didn’t do entirely, or to say it correctly: Without that bigger vision, the grand scheme of things.

I get it, it’s ok.
What we don’t get is that fear is in the way.
What we miss is that each and every time we learned there was this gap, this invisible gap between what we can do, and what we don’t know how to do.

A fine line that seems like a giant leap. Yet if we look back it wasn’t so big.
It took time, but not so much effort.

What it took is blindly trust that, if we put enough work, work will pay off.

This won’t change, yet our fear will make us change our mind instead.
Shut that voice. Go for the leap and don’t be afraid to fail.
Because you’re here and you failed in life and yet, guess what, you’re still here.

It’s only by choosing to do something different that you’ll end up in new different places. It’s by removing the bias, the prejudice that you go beyond your beliefs.

Only by going into a place you didn’t really liked, only by doing something you didn’t really wished for.

Only by doing those things _on your own will_ you’ll see something new, something unexpected.

It might not happen always, but it’ll eventually happen sometimes.

It’s in the connections you make with people that you can learn something new.

Only if you take the time to step down from your position, question yourself and accept a different point of view you can really make a change, make a difference.

That’s the key. Today I learned from a friend a new word: Gaslightning, that’s used at work. If you don’t know what that is, look it up, because you probably saw that happening, but didn’t knew the name.

Where does beauty and happiness lies?

Is it in the giant skyscraper that hides the rising sun? Is it in the bank account with many zeroes after a number, is it in the enormous park in front of a house?

Or is it in the small things, like two cleaners in a wedding suits shop, cleaning at 5am and making photos near the dresses?

Is it in the couple coming back from the club in the morning and asking for a coffee at the bar, talking kindly but slowly, gorgeously dressed with exquisite colors?

We, as people, are passing by so many stories, infinite lives around us, each own with their goals and dreams we are not part of, yet immensely big. We do this constantly. When we sit at the restaurant, wait for the train, ask for a drink. Around us the whole world moves with a unique rhythm, a music we are part of only as background but that is complex and detailed as our own.

Each story with its own glory, sadness, love and death.

Where is beauty and happiness after all, if not in the small space between those stories. The moment we stop for a second and we glance another universe in which we don’t belong, yet we feel so close to it.