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I was at a friend wedding last saturday.
It was a hot sunny day and there were lots of guests at the wedding.

It wasn’t deadly hot like it is today, but the sun was still doing its job at making us sweating.

The friends of the bride & groom are a big, enormous, group of friends. All tied together by the same small city they live in, by the same history.

They played together, they all stayed together, when they were young.

I knew few of them, they’re all nice people.
And in this group, now with moms & babies, there was once a couple that after staying together for something like 10 years, after all that they decided to break up.

I suppose it wasn’t easy, I suppose it did take time. But here they were at the same wedding, both with their new partner.One of the old couple partnered with another person of the big group.
The other found a partner outside it.

I thought how hard it must’ve been to handle all this, to reach this point of  calm when everything is fine. To live your own life.
And in this, you must have a lot of courage, because the road you once walked is now lost and to live your own life you have to go into a new unpaved road, a road you don’t know nor understand.

A 100% mistery road with an unknown destination.

It takes courage to do this, and it takes courage to show up in the same group and finding the strength to make all of this happen, this kind of “we can all be in the same group without destroying it”.

Yes, maybe they aren’t the same friends as before, maybe they don’t look at the stars together.
To me it’s always strange to see them apart, although now I understand that they weren’t meant to be together. I felt the difference.

But aside from this, I highly respect both of them for being able to live this kind of life, to go the unknown route and sticking with it without looking back.

Maybe the biggest fantasy of all is that amazon is not a social network, so spending time on amazon is just another word for an issue we should solve.

Because we can’t buy amazon.

What did anger gave you?
A present, an ideal for a better world, a solution to your problem.

Anger gave you an easy way out, a fast lane to go and follow your dreams.

Anger gave you the opportunity to fullfill your todo list in terms of revenge.

Anger gave you lots of things, but can you take that away from you or did it become part of yourself?

This is my first rule and it has been a rule since a lot of time ago when I understood the consequences of critizicing someone in public.

I learned it on my skin, firsthand, because I was the one taking the blame. It was in the beginning of my career and I was young and inexperienced. 

I didn’t understood its value until a friend told me that it’s better to critic privately, because what rarely happens in the cases when you blame in public is that you don’t excuse in public too, but you excuse in private.

That was my first encounter with this “way” and I never let go ever since.

As I would expect I failed a lot. Some times I still reacted in public when a blaming was made in public, and it’s hard to take the blame and be silent. Not because we should be shut, but because reacting in public is something very few people are good at.

Today I criticized a collegue, she’s a nice and gentle girl, but she has yet to grasp some rules to improve her perfomance. 
I kindly took her to a room and explained not what was wrong, but what she (and all of the team) would gain from a change in her behaviour.

I hope she didn’t take it bad, and I surely hope she will grow from this.

One thing that it’s always undervalued about the idea that we should be the leading example is that the world often can’t keep up.
We will always see people that will blame in public and excuse in private.
We can’t avoid this. 
What we can avoid, though, is the way we act.

A friend of mine asked to promote his facebook page.

Mostly because I have “many friends”. Now, this isn’t something that worries me. I’m not a famous person, so I can honestly say that when he told me “many” he meant “much more than me”. 

I’m not relevant for this, yet he thought that I could somewhat guide all my friends into liking his facebook page.
My reply was fast and immediate, and I asked him for some reason about the page. 
What does it do, who should benefit from it and so on.

He still didn’t reply but the point is that this is an old issue.
You can’t expect people to promote your product with noreasoning. We want reasons, we want benefits and that is not going to change.

Either a product delights us and make us dreams so much that we buy it, or the product solves a problem dear to us. There’s no way out.

The idea that simply promoting it and it’ll skyrocket is useless.