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Today I asked a dear friend a favour. Well, not really a favour, but I wanted her to be the one making the photos at my wedding.

And it was hard, because I wanted to express all the gratitude, all the magic that led me to wish for this.
It was hard because she’s a friend, and I didn’t want her to put into a strange situation.

But yet, I did ask her.
And to do it I tried to put it simply, ask her and tell her why it’s important to me, why I like her style, why she should take time to evaluate the decision and consider it from all the point of views.

It went well, although she didn’t still say yes. But it was good.

Asking for help is something to be learned, and I hope I can improve over and over again, by being even more empathetic, even more resonant with the person I’m talking to.

Too often I’ve missed their emotions, and I hope to learn as fast as I can how to recognize them.

My Girlfriend’s father tells me that an old schoolmate that’s not in politics is a bad person because he did 1 thing.

But how do you define that? I wonder if we can allow people to change.
Does one isolate action define yourself entirely?

People can change their mind, they can change their behaviour.

We should avoid the labeling as far as possible, and consider people much like investing money into stock options or funds.

Past performance is no guarantee of future results.

I have lots of female friends that do yoga.

Hatha, ashtanga, etc.

Nowadays we have all forms of yoga, one to lose weight, one to relax, each yoga has a different goal and set.

In fact, yoga has become a sport.
Even though it wasn’t a sport.

It was something religious, spiritual.
And I wonder, has yoga helped these people find some spiritual part in themselves or not?

I think, for many of them, that they didn’t got this chance.
Ashtanga yoga, being fast and calorie burning like it is, doesn’t allow you to appreciate the inner working of yoga.

But yoga is much more than this, and I find very difficult to talk about spiritual and religious things today.
I feel we are in one of those fields where everyone either agrees with you or think you’re stupid, because the spiritual part is something that cannot be described.

It’s not like “I saw God”, nor it cannot be. If God would appear in front of you so easily, then everything would be easy.
Faith would be easy, because, you know, once you see something so clear, why shouldn’t you believe?
But in that design, wouldn’t be God be some kind of dictator?
If his presence is so easily discovered then why wouldn’t everyone believe in him.
Game set, done.

But the spiritual part in ourselves requires much more than that.
Faith itself requires you to believe in something you cannot grasp, let alone demonstrate.

I wonder if we’ll have some growth on our spiritual part too.
Technologies continue to appear, but none of this is working on the only part where medicine, science can work.
Our emotions, our feelings, ourselves (yes I know we can somewhat trick the body/mind emotions, but that’s not the point)

Two things happened today.

1. A friend’s father came at the office today to give his son a package.
   The son didn’t have time, he was working he was busy. He stayed focused on the work for a while and after a couple of minutes he hastily went to greet the father.
2. A girl that is doing an internship for us started talking to me about issues when buying a ticket from the italian railway company.
   She did this not to share the blame but mostly because she don’t have that many people that speak english and because she felt frustrated.
   She didn’t need help.
   I listened to her and then went fast back to work.

In both cases we could’ve done better.
Work is work, and there’s a limit to the time you can give to someone.
But, come one, 2 minutes is something we should be able to give from time to time.

If we’re too busy to reply to others, to consider them, to treat them well, maybe we don’t even have time for us, to be mindful, present, aware.

What happens when you risk to lose a parent, a family member?

There are no words for describing it and it’s a demonstration that life goes above and beyond what we can expect.

We can’t know for sure what to do, so in those cases focus on being the best version of yourself.