Category: Blog

One of the things that I constantly think about is how people ask for help.

You see, if you think about it, asking for help is not so common. We don’t ask for help, and when we do, we do it from a power position so that we don’t feel too much powerless and stupid.

But asking for help might as well, guess what… help you.
Also, asking for help does not equate getting help which might or might not happen.

We might have become too much obsessed with success and power and we forgot what asking for help was.

It was our way to communicate, to connect, to reach to others.
It avoids burnout and emotional breakdown because help is there for a reason.

Admitting to have a problem, to not have a solution, represents the first step to transforming your situation.
Until you do that, you’re stuck, blocked, unable to move forward.

But once you start changing, then everything changes, and you too can.

Today a friend admitted that he needed help. I told him I’d be there, and help him. He doesn’t ask for help so much, therefore it must have been hard for him.
Then I discovered that I couldn’t help him (work related issue) as much as I wanted, therefore I promised him to do my best to alleviate the pains and issues.

Even if asking for help might not lead to the help you expected it might still lead to a better situation than the one you’re in.

Since I’ve got a side business that sells deodorants, I happen to manage also the Facebook page, and from time to time I got the chance to read some bad reviews.

I’ve always shared them all, always replied and told them that they can write us in private to get more help.

I think we should help people this way. Answering, being present as a company.
Every time I think of a big company I remember their limits.
They can’t help you because often they don’t reply, they can’t even timely respond.

Maybe this happens when you grow too much, or maybe it happens because you have not put in place the correct support system. Hard to tell.

I do know that we can do better, at least now.
We can reply, and put our face on it, even with bad reviews. Because this way we can learn, we can improve and move forward.

Do we realize how much wonder we should perceive in life?

Thinks like flying in an airplane, driving miles or using a train.

The pc, the smartphone.
Things impossible years ago.

We must get back to find the smile, to smile for things like these.

I tend to think that we also forgot how work should work (sorry for the double word).
Some people would very much prefer to do only entertaining work, but we can’t do that.
We must do also the boring work, the work that pays the bills.

Not every fun thing makes money, and the foundation of work passes also through the boring stuff, which, if you think like this, becomes more interesting, because it sustains the actual society and without it, we wouldn’t have the commodities we have today.

You can’t foresee life, you can’t imagine what will happen.

Life will always give you something you didn’t expect, something different.

What to do then? Don’t go against life. Learn to dance with it.
Learn to play, learn to go with the tide, learn to dive.

Take a deep breath and don’t sink too much.
Take time, make time, make space for the people you love.

Make space for you, the first one you should love.

Time and life, the two things that make this world beautifully.
Live, don’t leave.

When someone dies a void is created.

A void made by all the times you’ve been together, by all the words you’ve said to each others, by all the silences and the words you _didn’t_said.

A void constructed by the possibilities of life. Of what you could do better, of the errors of the trip.

We can’t replace the void. We can’t substitute it, yet we can live.

We can move forward and think about all the good times. We can learn from the words we didn’t said and take that as an example to do better.
We can take the fights, the rage, and use them to learn how to avoid in the future.
We can, in the end, learn how to grow, how to become that ideal person we wanted to transform into someday.

To live at our highest point, at our highest level, to become the best version of ourselves.