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There will be hard times, there will be a hard moment, we will fail. But if we’re honest with others about our story, about what we believe, what we hope, then we can communicate.

It’s only through communication that we can change something. It’s by playing with our cards clearly visible that others can chime in and help us.

If we hide, if we don’t show what we have, then we’ll be alone.
Our strength is not infinite, we will be tired, we’ll give up.

“Oh, but if I let them see my cards they’ll betray me”.
It’ll happen anyway. People have always betrayed, cheated. It’s not new. There will be ego, there will be someone that’ll abuse their position.

Knowing or not knowing won’t change their ego nor their interests. They will betray, but you’ll live with much more honesty, and knowing that you did your best, no shadows will be casted upon your actions.

In a remote working world it’s easy to forget about people and think about processes.

Empathy, in a remote working world, is something much harder to express and convey, it’s easy to miss the subtle changes in body language.

That’s why it’s so important. Any process won’t be able to replace the kind of care you can put when truly talking to someone, sharing your day, creating a connection.

Nothing has more value than that.

Look at nike or under armour shoes, how are they? They’re a complex composition of elements. The sole can’t be simply white, often it’s bundled with addon of any form and color to express the underlying complexity.

Or look at some of the toothbrush offerings, some are of a pantone color, other contains more than one color that mixes together, hinting that the complexity is higher.

Complexity is an interesting part of marketing and selling because it is based not on the effective function of a product, but more on the ideal that we have as humans that complex things ofter works better.

A car, a jet, we have many example of complex products that revolutionized the modern world so this kind of sentiment is well fonded.

Also, complexity can take many forms. It can be hinted by standing out of the competition with a different appeareance, it can be expressed by adding more ingredients or feature, even though they don’t contribute to the overall result.

Complexity can lead to think that a product is better than another, and it’s a marketing trick used all around us every day.

I know: Kindness is all the same. I thought the same way, but in the end I realized that there are many varieties of kindness, ways to care about the people around us.

The simplest act of kindness is to greet people, to simply say “Hello”.

That’s the first rule, the basic foundation.

I learned about a new variety this summer, when for the first time I was asked “How’s it going?” and they truly meant it.

You know, this was a year full of changes. One of them is a newborn. And a newborn comes with a nice package full of problems, stress, sleep debt and so on.

This accounts for many of the arguing that happens in a couple, but when you see the newborn you both don’t know it nor can image.
You can imaging the sleep debt, you can imagine the stress, you can imagine all those things. But you underestimate it by a large part.

You don’t think it will affect your relationship, but it will. You naively think it’ll affect only you and that you’ll be able to handle it, but you can’t.

That’s why that phrase “How’s it going?” was a really deep question. They asked us after they went through a lot of issues, they were worried it might happen to others.

It was nice to look at that question with a new set of yes. It was also nice to learn a new variety of kindness, one I wasn’t aware of, one i’ll try to pass on.

“It’s a bad day” a bad moment, a bad timing.

We say that a lot, implying that it’s not a perfect day that things could’ve gone better. But when “bad” is truly bad?

Maybe bad is just the result of the sums of many moments in our life.
How do we feel appreciated and loved?
How meaningful is the work we do?
What are our expectations and dreams?

And last but not least: how big is the detour of our life from what we dream and expect?

Add these questions to “Is this day going as planned?” and you got a recipe for failure unless your foundations are solid.

After all, stable means exactly that: having solid foundations.